quietGuy13 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Just wanted to share this. I'm 31 but my speaking skills are same or worse than a 6 year old. i may know a little more vocab but tht's what my speaking skills level is. It's kind of funny but it's true.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Did someone professional rate you that way or is that just your opinion of yourself? Have you been checked for any developmental issues or syndromes? Maybe you need special help for a certain condition rather than just speech therapy or remedial language skills learning.
Author quietGuy13 Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 Did someone professional rate you that way or is that just your opinion of yourself? Have you been checked for any developmental issues or syndromes? Maybe you need special help for a certain condition rather than just speech therapy or remedial language skills learning. I haven't been rated yet. It will be next week. But i just estimated that myself because if you throw me into a typical adult conversation, I can never understand what's going on and I can't participate. All the people my age start getting into deep and complex conversations and all kinds of fast speech. Even if they dont speak fast, they make all these articultate , great sentences..without mistakes, which is just realy impressive. i can't do that.
Thierro Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Are you a very analytical person and self-aware of your actions and thoughts 24/7?
Trolly Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I'm not sure that your inability to converse in such a matter means that you have the speaking level of a 6 year old. First thing that came to mind when i read your post was social anxiety. Of course that's just a quick impression. You seem to articulate your thoughts well enough on this forum
Author quietGuy13 Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 Thanks all. Well trolly, I even talk like a 6 year old with my sisters and I'm not socially anxious with them.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Thanks all. Well trolly, I even talk like a 6 year old with my sisters and I'm not socially anxious with them. You need to be evaluated for syndromes like Aspergers or other flavors of autism which show up as difficulty connecting socially with people in real time. Don't ever take that as an insult or put down. The truth can only help set you free or freer at this point. You'll be able to rule out "stupidity" or other unflattering ways of seeing yourself and just understand that you may need certain types of remedies you haven't tried yet that may make a positive difference for you. If you haven't gone that route yet, don't resist it. And if you're told something you don't like, get a second opinion. Keep trying, there's hope. Good luck.
Cee Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Feeling Frisky is right that you need testing. My sister struggled all through school and was told she wasn't college material. Her SAT's were just barely above the lowest possible score. She got into a college, but was "asked" to leave. She underwent testing and had a learning disability identified. They also told her she had normal IQ and would do fine in school She entered a supported education track at a major university. She went to regular classes, but had free tutoring and could take a longer time on tests. She made dean's list her senior year and went ahead and got her master's. She grew up her whole life thinking she was stupid and she learned it was all a lie. QuietGuy, I suggest you get professional testing. Also, I hope you are still in therapy because you'll need support in overcoming whatever issues you have.
Author quietGuy13 Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 Yeah thanks all. yeah im getting my speech asses next week. so it's good. I hope she gives it for free otherwise it wil cost me 500 dollars or something
LurkerXX Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Well, there are plenty of things that can affect speech, but not writing. Your grammar is not different than most what I see on the internet, imperfect but not in the realm of terrible; your expression of ideas is definitely clear enough to understand. You are taking the first step in the right direction; just don't expect the solutions to come right away or be completely clear. Everything is a process. Good luck!
turnera Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 How much reading do you do? It's a proven fact that the more you read, the higher your vocabulary and your speaking level goes. Just start going online and reading the news stories on yahoo or msn every day. Read them out loud. You'll be surprised at how much you start improving, just by reading news articles out loud.
Author quietGuy13 Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 I've been reading online news stories. and articles about many things, love, society, computers etc etc etc ever since i got internet in 1995. So it's not really working. and i read out loud.
turnera Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Ok, then. Your next step is to find your closest Toastmasters club. They are exactly - and only - for learning how to speak publicly. They are really amazing for improving your confidence, learning how to speak better, just everything.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I haven't been rated yet. It will be next week. But i just estimated that myself because if you throw me into a typical adult conversation, I can never understand what's going on and I can't participate. All the people my age start getting into deep and complex conversations and all kinds of fast speech. Even if they dont speak fast, they make all these articultate , great sentences..without mistakes, which is just realy impressive. i can't do that. If a 6 year old started talking to me that way, I'd think he was a genius! But I agree, you have some learning difficulties, OP. So do I. I have ADHD and possible Aspergers. I know people will say that your problems don't exist. Don't listen to those people, they have problems in accepting things that actually exist (and most likely believe in things that don't exist as well!)
Trimmer Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 First of all, I agree with the others who say it's a good thing you are getting checked out. The first steps to getting help are being willing to ask for help and then measuring the problem. I've been reading online news stories. and articles about many things, love, society, computers etc etc etc ever since i got internet in 1995. So it's not really working. and i read out loud. I have a couple of questions about this. Do you read material that you think is fairly "adult" and complex? Like newspaper articles and stuff like that? Is that a pretty normal level of reading for you? What I'm trying to figure out is whether you struggle with reading at the same levels that you struggle with speech and listening, or if you feel that you are able to read and write at much higher levels than you feel you can speak and listen. What is your feeling on that? The reason I ask is along these lines: Well, there are plenty of things that can affect speech, but not writing. ... and the other way around, too. For example, I know a number of kids with different levels of dyslexia - difficulties in moving written language in and out of their brains - who are quite articulate in their speech, and intelligent in general. They just have an obstacle in that particular pathway, from their understanding of language in their brain, in and out through written symbols - letters, words, sentences. You may have an obstacle that is similar to this, but in your speech and listening pathways. As others have pointed out, your writing seems pretty reasonable, and if you are reading and understanding more complex stuff, it may be that your ability to handle language is quite fine in general, but you've just got an obstacle in that speech/listening pathway. If you are willing to share, I'd be very interested to hear about the results of your testing once you are done with it. Best of luck to you.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 If you are in fact 32, and have autism to the point where you are regressed to 6 years old, perhaps there is no cure. I have a friend who is severely mentally disabled (I am not saying that out of malice, he is a sweet fellow, but he has always had learning difficulties.) He is now married and expecting a child. His wife is also severely mentally disabled. With all the posts that you make about having trouble finding a girl, I think of him, and I think he has his head screwed on straight. First off, he doesn't refer to women as "beauties", and his wife, although unattractive to me, is described by him as the most attractive to him. In that way, he's not going after porn models, because he knows he won't be able to get them. That does not make him a bad guy, just makes him realistic. What am I trying to say here? Go to a speech therapist, learn, review, evaluate. If you fit the criteria and can be helped, go with it. If you will always be this way, take comfort in that there is Social Security for people like you, and that, somewhere, there will be a girl on your level who will appreciate you for who you are. Keep your chin up, OP. I hope I didn't offend you or anyone else with this post, that was not my intention. But you will find someone someday. I personally think you are trying too hard to make friends and get a girlfriend.
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