Ginger Beer Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 This is a spin-off from the 'my boyfriend cheated and I punched him' thread. Is it ever acceptable to hit a woman? If yes, why, if no, why not? I was gonna post this in the abuse thread but that forum goes 6 days at a time without a post.
mr.dream merchant Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I don't condone in beating a woman for any reason at all. I say this because men are generally much bigger and stronger than women, in stature alone. Combine that with rage and anger? You've just amplified said man's strength by a noticeable and significant percentage. A woman should never be on the receiving end of that fury. Never. The only time I can see myself striking a woman is if she has put my life in serious danger, or the life of another loved one. Basically, unless she's trying to murder me or murder a loved one, I will not strike her. Now, I will contain a woman who is acting absurd. By contain I mean hold her and restrain her until she fights all of it out or comes to her senses. That's about it.
unknownsources Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Well, maybe if you're short/average sized and she's bigger than you by quite a bit, but that comes with the knowledge that she'll probably subsequently whoop your ass. Otherwise, I say no. In all honesty, should anybody be hitting anyone else? (except in football, they gotta get rid of that "defenseless player" rule and start hitting hard again).
thatone Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I don't condone in beating a woman for any reason at all. I say this because men are generally much bigger and stronger than women, in stature alone. Combine that with rage and anger? You've just amplified said man's strength by a noticeable and significant percentage. A woman should never be on the receiving end of that fury. Never. The only time I can see myself striking a woman is if she has put my life in serious danger, or the life of another loved one. Basically, unless she's trying to murder me or murder a loved one, I will not strike her. Now, I will contain a woman who is acting absurd. By contain I mean hold her and restrain her until she fights all of it out or comes to her senses. That's about it. agree. restrain? sure, if she needs it. actually hit her? no.
cloud10 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Hit a girl...I'll hit you x10. That's just life.
PratyekaYana Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Violence is either an acceptable response to provocation or it isn't. Sex is irrelevant.
carhill Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 If my life were threatened, sure. I'd use any means at my disposal to neutralize the threat. Otherwise, never have hit a woman, though I have restrained a woman who hit me and that was my mother when she was crazy. I knew she was crazy and it wasn't something she'd ever do when sane and my life wasn't in danger, so I merely restrained her from hurting myself or her.
musemaj11 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Yeah, Dutch soldiers during WWII were all cowardly bastards for fighting Japanese soldiers who were half their size. What a bunch of pu$$ies they were ... :rolleyes:
Author Ginger Beer Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 OK I see people saying only if their lives were threatened. Let's say for example, you're on a bus, there's a drunk teenage girl on there slapping people, being loud and a nuisance and that sort of stuff, still wrong?
omkara Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I don't hit women. I make sure any pain I cause them is psychological. Sorry, I couldn't resist.
somedude81 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Is it ever acceptable to hit a woman? If yes, why, if no, why not? If she hit me first, yup. Now that doesn't mean I'd use my full strength. Of course the goal is to try and prevent violence as much as possible. The absolute worst thing a guy can do is just sit there and let her beat him. That's just retarded.
johan Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Often when I see an attractive woman, I say to myself, "I'd definetely hit that." So I guess my answer would have to be yes. Sometimes it is ok.
Sanman Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 No, you don't hit a woman under any circumstances. You also don't hit a man if you are a woman. Physical violence is the expression of the feeble minded.
Author Ginger Beer Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 If she hit me first, yup. Now that doesn't mean I'd use my full strength. Of course the goal is to try and prevent violence as much as possible. The absolute worst thing a guy can do is just sit there and let her beat him. That's just retarded. The thing that bugs me is when you get those 'knight in shining armour' types of men who say it's wrong to hit a woman, then you ask why and they say, 'it just is'. To be honest I agree with you. Once a woman hits you, she's fair game.
Author Ginger Beer Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 Often when I see an attractive woman, I say to myself, "I'd definetely hit that." So I guess my answer would have to be yes. Sometimes it is ok. Not quite the answer I was looking for.
somedude81 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 The thing that bugs me is when you get those 'knight in shining armour' types of men who say it's wrong to hit a woman, then you ask why and they say, 'it just is'. To be honest I agree with you. Once a woman hits you, she's fair game. I've read many stories about physically abused men and how it mentally scared them. The one thing they all have in common, the men let it happen.
Author Ginger Beer Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 Even the aggressive, manly types of men though, the ones who say they'll hit any man who hits a woman... why?
carhill Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 OK I see people saying only if their lives were threatened. Let's say for example, you're on a bus, there's a drunk teenage girl on there slapping people, being loud and a nuisance and that sort of stuff, still wrong? In that situation, a clear example of battery, I'd merely call 911 and identify the bus and route and the situation and let the cops handle it. In our jurisdiction, AFAIK, citizen's arrests are no longer recognized so my prior practice of restraint/detention for a LEO is out the window. If the woman displayed technical fighting skills and/or a weapon, then I'd be more inclined to perceive the threat to life and limb and use my own assets to take her out, permanently if appropriate. Save for the example I provided, I've never experienced *any* situation with a woman where I *thought* the use of physical violence or restraint was necessary or warranted. This is not to be confused with what I *felt*. I've experienced many women who have been quite adept at psychological warfare, an act which is generally considered to be legal in most jurisdictions. Sometimes the winning move is to not play (engage).
omkara Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I've read many stories about physically abused men and how it mentally scared them. The one thing they all have in common, the men let it happen. That's why it's important to study martial arts, so you can dodge their girly punches and make them feel stupid. EDIT: ^True story.
counterman Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Often when I see an attractive woman, I say to myself, "I'd definetely hit that." So I guess my answer would have to be yes. Sometimes it is ok. LOL! :lmao: This comment made my day!
coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 No matter how my former narcissistic personality wife was with me I never struck her and that's not my nature to do so. I don't believe in domestic violence and that would also cause the local Sheriff to come a calling to my door.
dasein Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 If they are on my property and lay hands on me, or even get up in my face screaming and won't leave when asked, sure, not with a fist though. The tv preacher palm smack/push between the eyes works wonders. Have only had to do this once long ago thankfully. If not on my property, I won't ever hit anyone male or female or get in fights if I can get away. Jail or dead are not places I want to be.
oldguy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Hitting anyone is not acceptable but it is particularly offensive when the hitter is physically large or stronger, they are cowards. I am of average size but I have been involved in martial arts for nearly 40 years and of the only two genuine physical altercations I have been involved in during that time, both times the aggressor was well over six foot & I'm quite certain I convinced the two of them it was a mistake. At the time I was proud of that, I am no longer. As a foot note; I believe that my involvement in the martial arts kept me from a few fights years ago, not because my involvement was known but because of the confidence it gave me to walk away as a young man. Hitting anyone is not acceptable unless it is a last resort in an attempt to get out of a volatile situation. Hitting someone is usually a strong indicator of deeper emotional/psychological disturbances. Hitting someone smaller & weaker is cowardice.
insaneinthebrain Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 depends... if your in immenent physcial harm... like.. she is pointing a gun at you .. then .. yes.. if all she did was slap you and bruise you up .. probably no
somedude81 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 (edited) Hitting someone is usually a strong indicator of deeper emotional/psychological disturbances. Hitting someone smaller & weaker is cowardice. And what if that person struck you first or is threatening to harm you with a weapon? depends... if your in immenent physcial harm... like.. she is pointing a gun at you .. then .. yes.. if all she did was slap you and bruise you up .. probably no You would let a woman bruise you up?! Edited September 12, 2011 by somedude81
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