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Today my girlfriend drives to my house and I was working on my car. Trying to get it done that way I have more time for her. Well she parks her car and I say hi and wave as she is parking. She get's out and says, "aren't you going to come over here and say hi?" We are about 50ft away, I am all dirty and have been working all day, and I just am not used to that?

 

Is she high maintenance? Or am I a douche or do you need more info?

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Is she high maintenance? Or am I a douche or do you need more info?

Neither...I'd say she overreacted a little, but I hardly call that high maintenance

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Neither. You're making a bigger deal about it than it is.

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Since she went to your house, and youre under the car, she should have walked to you. If she wants you to walk to her car, that is a lil unnerving.

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Not a big deal either way.

 

However, I have a friend whose GF is constantly getting him to do unnecessary things for her she should be doing herself, drives me crazy being around them when she is acting like this, which is always LOL. One example was she had a can of coke on the ground on the other side of a table, three feet from her. Instead of walking around the table and picking up the coke herself, she held out her hand towards the coke as if it was supposed to "jedi" into her hand like a light saber, and made a very muted whimper sound until he GOT UP OUT OF HIS CHAIR, walked around the table and picked up the coke for her. I kid you not. Now THAT'S high maintenance.

 

So if it isn't part of a pattern of really obnoxious stuff like that, just write it off.

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I think it is just a big deal to her. It isn't to me and that's why when she 15 minutes later says she is leaving to a friends house because I apparently don't "care", I don't get it. I am a very laid back kind of guy and I don't get why she wants to be serious 24/7.

 

So what's the best way to handle this kind of thing?

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So what's the best way to handle this kind of thing?

 

Oh... if she is using trivial stuff like that to try to manipulate you on a regular basis and actually "punishes" you when you don't comply, dump her ass yesterday and don't look back. Life is too short to be with that kind of person.

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It is aggravating but it doesn't happen constantly. But yes, she is willing to think she is punishing me by driving off but I don't like that at all. Seems to me that it's immaturity on her part. She is a stunning girl, but because of this I think she and many other girls think they can say and do what they want without qualifying or respecting the one they are with.

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....she held out her hand towards the coke as if it was supposed to "jedi" into her hand like a light saber, and made a very muted whimper.....

 

Hysterical. This discription made me laugh.

 

I think I make that same sound and gesture when I walk by a really hot pair of boots I can't afford.

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It is aggravating but it doesn't happen constantly. But yes, she is willing to think she is punishing me by driving off but I don't like that at all. Seems to me that it's immaturity on her part. She is a stunning girl, but because of this I think she and many other girls think they can say and do what they want without qualifying or respecting the one they are with.

 

You did the right thing. Do not let her "punishment" make you cave in to her like that. it is immaturity, you nailed it on the head. She has to know you arent going to be a doormat. if you cave, she wont respect you.

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Thank you, she is coming over in a bit so we'll see how it all goes.

 

Thanks for the responses everyone!

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