rollingstone Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Me and this guy have been acquaintances for a couple of months now. We run into each other once/twice a week in our apartment complex. He's like 6'2" and looks like something straight off the water polo team...so naturally I figured him to be an ass at first. Turns out he is a bit aloof but quite nice when you get talking to him. Our last few encounters have turned into great conversations - our last one went for an hour. The dynamic is very "playful". We constantly poke fun at each other.... both quite sarcastic and can banter back and forth fairly equally, although he's especially good at picking up on my idiosyncrasies and playfully pointing them out - that always catches me off guard. FINALLY he asked me to go out to a concert last night. We had such a fun time and he bought everything. Problem is, he never made a move! I'd like to think he was being a gentleman but c'mon, an arm around the shoulder wouldn't have killed anyone. On the ride home he commented that it was refreshing to hang out with me and that he was "starting to lose faith in girls around here" He definitely treated me a like a date but the lack of physical contact makes me feel like maybe I'm just his new buddy?
todd Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Some guys just like to move a little slower then others. If he hasn't made by date three, then I would start questioning things.
Osiris1234 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Some guys just like to move a little slower then others. If he hasn't made by date three, then I would start questioning things. Or maybe he is just nervous to make a move.
todd Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Or maybe he is just nervous to make a move. .. and if he hasn't made a move by the third date I would start questioning him.
Author rollingstone Posted September 11, 2011 Author Posted September 11, 2011 Perhaps. Although he seems to be very comfortable in his own skin, which makes me doubt that he's particularly nervous. I cant imagine him using this to "feel things out" considering that we have already talked so much. The fact that I'm his neighbor makes it awkward. I suppose that's not a bridge either of us want to cross unless we are totally sure...
Author rollingstone Posted September 11, 2011 Author Posted September 11, 2011 I like that you make three dates still sound normal. I guess we've got two more dates to get things going
rafallus Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Problem is, he never made a move! I'd like to think he was being a gentleman but c'mon, an arm around the shoulder wouldn't have killed anyone. On the ride home he commented that it was refreshing to hang out with me and that he was "starting to lose faith in girls around here" Then he's either not really interested in you, or pretty awkward with it.
cutiecall Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 I wouldn't worry at all. It is better to move slow. I would almost take it as a compliment. Now if he doesn't make a move after 3 or 4 dates I would start to wonder. Here is a trick. See if when you are walking around he touches your lower back. If he does he is attracted. I noticed men around the world do that. It must be an intuitive man thing.
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