cutiecall Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Hi, I have been at a new job for 2 months. I work for a big company. I have a co-worker who sits close to me but works in a different department. We never work on projects together. He has been flirting with me since day one. Some times I can't believe how lustful his eyes are. I think to myself tone your eyes down we are at work. He comes in to my cubicle all the time and we talk, flirt, and tease each other. We went out to lunch last Friday. We had a a great time. He put his hand on my lower back. (I've noticed guys do that when they are attracted to me-lol). He was also so bold as to put his hand briefly on my leg. The thing is I'm attracted to him and I like him. I'm not totally sure about long term though yet. He also has 4 kids(divorced I guess). He asked if I'm dating anyone and I told him I was. I'm dating but I don't have a boyfriend. I'm actually dating a few guys but haven't slept with any of them and I'm not really sure where any of them are headed. He is actually dating someone too. So, I'm really not sure how to handle this bc I know this could be a disaster. My job is stressful enough. I dont' know if I could handle all these emotions at work. If I got attached to him it could seriously mess with my mind at work. There is this intense attraction between us though. Maybe I should totally start ignoring him. Not sure what to do. Help!
todd Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Would you be willing to quit your job down the road for him if you got serious? It sounds like you have already set boundaries for yourself. My job is stressful enough. I dont' know if I could handle all these emotions at work. If I got attached to him it could seriously mess with my mind at work. You just have to stand by them now. If you still have emotions for him a couple months down the road or what not, then re-evaluate your emotions and your feelings.
Author cutiecall Posted September 11, 2011 Author Posted September 11, 2011 Hi Todd, Thanks! Yes, I probably should cool things down for my own mental state. I bet men can handle work place affairs better than women. I also have to remember I don't really know much about him. I don't even know if he is divorced, etc. I find myself thinking about him though. I was fantasizing about him in a sexual way this weekend. Uuuugggh But yes, I'm not going to date him at all until I have a better picture of things. The thing I do put a high value on having a man and a relationship in my life. I'm at a point in life I value that at the same level or higher than my career. That hasn't always been the case. I do value being able to make my own money though. But basically what I'm saying is a career isn't everything in life. It is only one small part and relationships are actually more important.
Author cutiecall Posted September 11, 2011 Author Posted September 11, 2011 Yes, If I was madly in love and this was the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with I would get another job. The thing this job is only contract for 18 months and it has been super stressful and sometimes I don't know if I want it to continue.
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