warrenorabbits Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 My dear friend "Jen" got married this year to "Zach." I really don't like Zach for reasons other than that he married Jen, but I've learned to just accept him, and I've distanced myself from them both so as not to intrude or cross boundaries. Jen and I were once boyfriend and girlfriend, and she is by far the most loyal, supportive friend I've ever had, despite the fact that she would have been justified in telling me to get lost more times than I'd care to admit. The problem is that I failed to appreciate Jen's friendship until it was too late. I didn't call her back when she called me, didn't answer her romantic advances, etc. And now she is married. We still talk, with the approval of Zach, and nothing untoward has happened. I do not want to think that I would help someone cheat on their spouse. Nevertheless, deep down I don't sense that Zach and Jen's marriage will last forever (it was somewhat hasty in the first place), and I secretly wish that I could get involved with Jen again. I suspect that she feels the same way towards me. But I would not want some "other man" to interfere with my marriage, and therefore I know that I need to keep that desire dormant. What would you do/think in my shoes?
todd Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Cut her lose and let them be. Get over the past and move on to the future. She has moved on and married someone else so let her go. Stop thinking about what could of been or anything of that sort because it isn't and it wont be.
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