Paige1377 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Three months ago my ex husband had myself and our then nine month old move out of the house bc he said he lost feelings and it wouldn't work anymore. We lived together six years and off and on eight years. Our divorce was my weight gain, depression after having a baby and I thought my ex was cheating and he pulled away. First two months after split my daughter and I were staying at my parents and I was a wreck lost 30 lbs in two months. My ex and I still fought alot and he wasn't sure we could work out. Third month I moved to a city with a good job and after a couple more blowouts my ex and I finally agreed to be civil. We had an hour long call discussing our daughter...and also how he said we are done. He is coming to see my daughter and wants to do some repairs around my house and my lawn. I told him that's my space and he said bc his daughter is here he has a right to know those things. He said he cares about me, just not how I want. He found out I had a bf and grilled me for twenty minutes trying to find out more info. I told him it wasn't his business. His words says he is over me, but his actions speak differently. He has an idea my future boyfriends and him can be friends. He wants to make sure I am okay, however he is also a control freak. He said he hasn't slept with anyone or dated anyone which I think he's lying...but it's his life. When he said we were done I said give it a couple months and he didn't respond...I think he thinks right now he is done...but every time I move on he always comes back. He has a job opportunity five hours away so we will be in different states. Also, with him coming to see his daughter he wants to pick her up from my house, even though I told him we could just do it thru his moms house so no face to face. I will always love him but I am not sure I would want him back. So opinions....is he trying to be civil for his daughter or is trying to ease back into my life?
willowthewisp Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 And what was his part in the break down of your marriage? Sorry hun, but from what you say this man has no accountability, he has blamed you for not loving you anymore, who the h*** does he think he is? What kind of man walks away from his wife and child because she gained weight and suffered from post partum? I'll tell you, a b***** that is what kind! IF he is coming back and I do not know if he is, sounds like he may be beause now you lost the weight and have moved on from him, new job, new boyfriend, all of a sudden you are interesting to him again because you aren't avaliable to him, I would urge you not to take him back, you deserve a lot better.
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