lxs_dion Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Hello. I am new to this forum and this is my very first post, so here it goes. (This might get long so if you read it all thank you so much!) I met my current boyfriend my senior year of high school and we are now attending college together. We have been together for almost one year now, and our relationship has been suffering for the past few months and I am afraid it is all my fault. When we first met I had had a previous boyfriend about 3 years ago who I had lost my virginity to (a HUGE mistake that I regret). My boyfriend had never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, and was obviously a virgin. In the first month of our relationship I did something extrememly immature and mean. I told him (in more detail than was necessary) about my ex to make him jealous. I'm not sure why I did this but realize how wrong I was and am thankful that he has stayed with me this long. So of course, he is extremely jealous and angry about this (guess I got what I wanted :/).He feels like since he is a virgin and I'm not we weren't on "even playing ground". He also feels that anything we do sexually is not special because I have done it with someone else. I have told him how sorry I am and how much I love him more than anyone else I have ever been with. I tell him he satisfies me and everything we do is much more special than with my ex. He doesn't believe me even though I don't lie to him. He gets so angry and calls me horrible names when he's mad. He keeps asking for details about the sex I had with my ex which makes him even more jealous. I keep trying to show him I love him and do everything I can to fix my mistake but the problem still persists. I am at a loss. Please help. Thank you.
denise_xo Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Hi there and welcome to LS I would leave this guy behind, personally. It definitely wasn't right of you to tell him about your ex to make him jealous, but IMO if you have a so called past, you're not compatible with a guy who can't deal with the fact that you do. If he has a trust issue and you're currently being fully honest with him and trying to reassure him of your true feelings, then there's nothing more that you can do. He needs to fix it himself. If he prefers to meet a virgin, fine, but then he should be freeing you up so that you can meet someone who genuinely appreciates you. I would give him an ultimatum. That's what I had to do with my current partner when he had issues about my past. Good luck!
Osiris1234 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Well you ****ed up real bad. Also he shouldn't care whether your a virgin or not. 1 year and you haven't had sex yet? wtf?
rafallus Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 I am afraid it might be done for. I don't see any specific solutions. Regardless, treat it as a lesson not to use jealousy as a mind game, as you're just experiencing one of the ways it can backfire.
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