Lilmisus Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 My boyfriend, who I've been seeing for two weeks now, really wants five of his best friends (one of whom is like a brother to him) to meet and spend time with me next weekend when they come to town. By spend time, I mean, go out to a bar that's having a $10 admittance fee next weekend, and you can drink as many shots as you want. It's already been decided that I'm going to meet them with him at their hotel before going out, and that I have no problem with, I just really don't want to go out with them afterward. There are a few issues that I'm thinking about when I say that I don't want to go with them. 1.) His ex didn't trust him at all. Constantly checked his phone and Facebook, and wanted to go out with him and his friends whenever they came around. Typically ruining their nights. I'm not like that at all though, and I trust him. 2.) They're only coming for a weekend, and I want him to spend as much guy time with them as possible. I don't want him to spend the night with me draped on his shoulder, when I've been seeing him everyday for the past couple weeks, and when he wont see them again for a while longer. 3.) No one else is bringing a girlfriend/wife...I don't see why my boyfriend should be the exception. I'm worried that his friends might feel the same way. 4.) Apparently...if I'm not there he wont feel right drinking heavily, and that's another reason he wants me there. That way he wont have to worry about it at all, and feels more free to have as much fun as possible. 5.) I suggested just going there, but not with them, but instead my best friend, her boyfriend, and another friend of mine. That way, he wont feel obligated to spend all his time with me, and I wont feel uncomfortable in anyway. He said if I brought any girls, his friends will think that they're for them and get the wrong idea. 6.) I also suggested being the designated driver...an idea that he also wasn't too fond of since he didn't want to call me at four in the morning to come pick them all up. I get that he wants to show me off to all his friends...he's already told them just how special I am to him, how he loves me, and how he thinks I'm "too good to be true" and he wants them to see it too...but like I said, I don't want to intrude on guy bonding time. I'd feel bad, and highly uncomfortable. But I also feel bad by telling him that I wont go, and he's not really choosing to accept that as an answer at this point. What do y'all think I should do?
robdrm32 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 i understand where you are coming from. its different if he wanted to introduce you to them but spending all night at a bar with 5 guys you don't know, eh. I don't know what he is expecting to gain from it and not that his guy friends care if you go, but it just makes for an odd atmosphere. your idea about going out with your friends is a good one, and its not your problem if his friends get the wrong idea. he can tell them what the idea is beforehand.
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