eleanorhurting Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Does anyone know any codependency treatment/rehabilitation centers? 9 months after a bad breakup and after having been during this time dating for 4 months a completely unavailable person who strung me along for sex and I basically went along with it because I just didnt want to feel alone... i'm starting to think I really am codependent. I'm not proud of it but I want help because I feel like have downward spiraled. I have always had low self esteem but I never felt this ****ty before. Has anyone here been to rehabilitation/relationship rehab? My frustrations have led me to other destructive behaviors like I feel like I'm relapsing with my eating/body image issues. I think I need help.
Buttercup84 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Does anyone know any codependency treatment/rehabilitation centers? 9 months after a bad breakup and after having been during this time dating for 4 months a completely unavailable person who strung me along for sex and I basically went along with it because I just didnt want to feel alone... i'm starting to think I really am codependent. I'm not proud of it but I want help because I feel like have downward spiraled. I have always had low self esteem but I never felt this ****ty before. Has anyone here been to rehabilitation/relationship rehab? My frustrations have led me to other destructive behaviors like I feel like I'm relapsing with my eating/body image issues. I think I need help. I do not think you are co-dependant just really heart broken. You chose a unavailable person because you are not readdy yet.It is not your fault. I am normally a independant person but while my ex and I were together I became so dependant on him and even he said that. I loved being single before and now I am **** scared. I am 27 and wondering if I will end up alone and childless.I never even thought about those things before.So there is nothing wrong with you. You should still go and see someone to talk to , it will always help.x
sleepykitten Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I have, i went in for "love addiction/co dependency,and eating disorder, it was in south africa, as its cheaper there, lots of english people and american too. But first maybe either get some therapy one to one sessions, do some reading, look up an author called pia mellody, and also a book called women who love too much by robin norwood. Its a really difficult addiction as its not something you can totally abstain from so its about re learning and coping. There are 12 step meetings too, but i would advise you do some reading first make sure this is what you have, and get to see a counsellor too who specialises in codependency, and or love addiction. Getting help was the best thing i did, its made me more self aware but its been really tough. There are more deaths from sex and love addiction than any other addiction apparently due to the high number of suicides!
Mack05 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I am not sure you are co-dependant but a there is a book called Co_dependency no more by Meallie Beattie its a very good. The only criticism I would have is that there is too much reference to alcolhics and alcoholism but other then that it's a great read. Getting past your breakup is another book that helped me. Good Luck
Author eleanorhurting Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 Thanks you guys I will definitely do that. Youre right maybe im not co-dependent but Im certainly heart broken and scared of being alone and childless at 24! (I know it sounds so silly!). Thanks for the advice on the books I will definitely look into it. I saw my therapist and he has been helping me alot and he has been helping be realize that there are lots of things that I have done since I have been alone that i didnt think i could do (Like passing my board exam!!! yayyyy) and that I do not really need someone I just need to convince myself of this. Thanks for the support.
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