Buttercup84 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Good : He wanted me to do well in my job and studies He got me sphinx and bought me little gifts He was romantic ( at first ) A good kisser Looked sexy Made me laugh Loved most of the same TV shows He was willing to marry me and have children He was clean and organized He was polite He was nice to my parents He was affectionate He was helpful Helped out in the household Looked after me and made sure I wasn't cold Believed in me Was proud of me Said not to put myself down after the break up and wants me to be happy Wants me to be more confident Great sex Bad things : Had a bit of a temper with me and other people Was impatient with me Loved guns and hunting Family never hugged Wanted to move to Brisbane three times while we were together , kept changing his mind and upsetting me Would reject me a lot for Sex Would have dumped me if I put on a lot of weight Didn't take me out for dinner because I apparently embarressed him when I didn't finish my meal Didn't like the way I did the dishes Got angry if I stuffed up dinner Hardly went out anymore and spent most of his time playing computer or with his friends Critized me for a lot of things Stopped sending me sms while we were away from eachother Called me a ****ing retard when I misunderstood something once Hardly looed after me when I got sick Signed up to a dating site when we were still together Once got me to call the cops after the neighbours real estate agent came up when I was alone at home - because he complained about our neighbours. He said if I didn't call them I would be against him. I cried down the phone to them. Had porn on his computer and pictures of naked models Said he would break up with me if I broke my iphone Not being there for me after my abortion Taking away my engagement ring after abortion Bitched about me to his friends In the end refused to pick me up late at night from the station because he was tired Guess I just brought out the worst in him when he was such a good guy
jenjen83 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Good : He wanted me to do well in my job and studies He got me sphinx and bought me little gifts He was romantic ( at first ) A good kisser Looked sexy Made me laugh....kept changing his mind and upsetting me Loved most of the same TV shows He was willing to marry me and have children He was clean and organized He was polite no he wasn't - Had a bit of a temper with me and other people He was nice to my parents He was affectionate He was helpful Helped out in the household however Got angry if I stuffed up dinner Looked after me and made sure I wasn't cold but Hardly looed after me when I got sick Believed in me......Called me a ****ing retard when I misunderstood something once Was proud of me but also Critized me for a lot of things Said not to put myself down after the break up and wants me to be happy Wants me to be more confident but Would have dumped me if I put on a lot of weight Great sex but yet Would reject me a lot for Sex Guess I just brought out the worst in him when he was such a good guy All the good things he gave you are far outweighed by the bad. I took no pleasure in highlighting the above but this man did not treat you well. I have read all your posts and despite not knowing you I fully believe you deserve far far more than what this boy could ever give you.
Mack05 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 (edited) Buttercup it really is simple. Any woman with high self esteem would not only leave this guy, but would realise he treated you atrociously and would happy he is gone. U want him back but I have no idea why. You think his treatment of you is good!? He clearly doesnt respect you, because you dont even respect yourself. Your self esteem is in the gutter. Until that improves, you will continually attract morons like this guy.And that is what he is...A MORON!! You should'nt be sad u lost this guy, you should be happy he is gone. Get your self esteem and self confidence back. Achieve everything u outlined in your journal. If you do all that, then u will see this clown for what he is... Edited September 11, 2011 by Mack05
radiodarcy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Buttercup it really is simple. Any woman with high self esteem would not only leave this guy, but would realise he treated you atrociously and would happy he is gone. U want him back but I have no idea why. You think his treatment of you is good!? He clearly doesnt respect you, because you dont even respect yourself. Your self esteem is in the gutter. Until that improves, you will continually attract morons like this guy.And that is what he is...A MORON!! You should'nt be sad u lost this guy, you should be happy he is gone. Get your self esteem and self confidence back. Achieve everything u outlined in your journal. If you do all that, then u will see this clown for what he is... ^^^^ this. take it from Mack, Buttercup - - this guy was not worth your time. my ex treated me pretty much the same way. it was difficult for me to see this while i was in the thick of it -- even though my friends would constantly point it out to me. at the time i refused to let go - - saying i loved him. and maybe i did. but i also used that love as an excuse ignore his poor treatment of me. it was a perverse form of self-flagellation, really. i felt that because i loved him, i had to accept that kind of treatment. but after six months of NC i've had a chance to build my self-esteem. as a result, i've come to realize that's a load of bunk. love has its limits and no one has the right to treat anyone so poorly. yes, i still remember the good times from time to time. but as JenJen said, the bad far outweigh the good. and because of that i am much happier he is out of my life. and out he will stay
ScienceGal Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 love has its limits and no one has the right to treat anyone so poorly. My new mantra
Besmy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Hi Buttercup, he doesn't seem too good to me, sorry! The worst to me is: Called me a ****ing retard when I misunderstood something once Hardly looed after me when I got sick Signed up to a dating site when we were still together That's doesn't look like someone who loves you, sorry dear! A hug.
shayla Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Buttercup,This man was a prick. He mistreated you. He did you a favor and in time you will see that. Take the energy you are using to grieve and use it on yourself. Build yourself a better life without him in it. Learn to love yourself enough to really recognize a good man and men like him will avoid you.
Author Buttercup84 Posted January 28, 2012 Author Posted January 28, 2012 Old post but had to read this again . Thank you everyone xx
Million.to.1 Posted January 30, 2012 Posted January 30, 2012 Guess I just brought out the worst in him when he was such a good guy Reading this made me cry. Buttercup, NO. That is all.
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