richardwordoff Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Well, I met this girl a couple weeks ago and got her facebook. She had a public phone number (it was on facebook) so I sent her a text to say "what's up this is my_name" and she ignored me. This made me really mad because I thought she was interested so I deleted her off of facebook. Now I'm regretting this and am thinking if I should add her again. I requested a girl I asked out this summer from a class of mine to be my friend a couple days after she rejected me and ignored it, but about 3 weeks later I tried again and this time she accepted it (although she doesn't talk on chat to me). Would it be a bad idea to facebook this girl from a couple weeks ago? On one hand I feel like it would show her that I'm OK with it and am not going to be holding a pissed off grudge, but on the other hand it seems like I'm acting more desperate or trying to be her friend and weasel my way into a relationship.
Easyguy14 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Well, I met this girl a couple weeks ago and got her facebook. She had a public phone number (it was on facebook) so I sent her a text to say "what's up this is my_name" and she ignored me. This made me really mad because I thought she was interested so I deleted her off of facebook. Now I'm regretting this and am thinking if I should add her again. I requested a girl I asked out this summer from a class of mine to be my friend a couple days after she rejected me and ignored it, but about 3 weeks later I tried again and this time she accepted it (although she doesn't talk on chat to me). Would it be a bad idea to facebook this girl from a couple weeks ago? On one hand I feel like it would show her that I'm OK with it and am not going to be holding a pissed off grudge, but on the other hand it seems like I'm acting more desperate or trying to be her friend and weasel my way into a relationship. how old are you? the things you do seem juvenile, no offense. but to add girls you're interested in on facebook? there's too many people on there so you wont really be anything to her but another face. if that's what you're looking for, fine, but if you wanna date these girls, ask for their number or just throw a date at them. they'll take you more seriously.
leftfordead2 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Well, I met this girl a couple weeks ago and got her facebook. She had a public phone number (it was on facebook) so I sent her a text to say "what's up this is my_name" and she ignored me. This made me really mad because I thought she was interested so I deleted her off of facebook. Now I'm regretting this and am thinking if I should add her again. I requested a girl I asked out this summer from a class of mine to be my friend a couple days after she rejected me and ignored it, but about 3 weeks later I tried again and this time she accepted it (although she doesn't talk on chat to me). Would it be a bad idea to facebook this girl from a couple weeks ago? On one hand I feel like it would show her that I'm OK with it and am not going to be holding a pissed off grudge, but on the other hand it seems like I'm acting more desperate or trying to be her friend and weasel my way into a relationship. That is a real big turn off, imo.
Author richardwordoff Posted September 15, 2011 Author Posted September 15, 2011 Easyguy14: Way too old to be so damn pathetic when it comes to this stuff (nearly out of college).
Eddie Edirol Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 You dont friend request women before youve started dating. Wait for them to ask to add you. Its cowardly to ask them for their facebook name before asking for their number. Its a complete turnoff, because it shows you have no confidence.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I agree with Eddie. I would say not to add the girl, move on.
Red Arremer Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 well, i met this girl a couple weeks ago and got her facebook. she had a public phone number (it was on facebook) so i sent her a text to say "what's up this is my_name" and she ignored me. This made me really mad because i thought she was interested so i deleted her off of facebook. Now i'm regretting this and am thinking if i should add her again. danger, danger will robinson Haha, if your post is all caps it converts it to all lowercase.
grkBoy Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Well, I met this girl a couple weeks ago and got her facebook. She had a public phone number (it was on facebook) so I sent her a text to say "what's up this is my_name" and she ignored me. This made me really mad because I thought she was interested so I deleted her off of facebook. Now I'm regretting this and am thinking if I should add her again. First off, I don't care if a girl posts her email, mailing address, and phone numbers on Facebook. You don't contact her unless she gives you permission. Period. Your text only creeped her out, because she's not willing to invite you into that part of her life. I've seen some guys here complain why girls they meet in groups or meetups won't allow them to be friends on Facebook. The answer is those girls only want to be Facebook friends with people they know deeply. Friends and family. I myself have fallen into this a bit. Some think I'm being cliquey, but I want to have it that what I post is only seen by those I want to see it...not the world outside. Should you try again? No. You blew it. Write her off and move on. I requested a girl I asked out this summer from a class of mine to be my friend a couple days after she rejected me and ignored it, but about 3 weeks later I tried again and this time she accepted it (although she doesn't talk on chat to me). Would it be a bad idea to facebook this girl from a couple weeks ago? Yeah. She rejected you in the past. She won't date you...period. Maybe she accepted the Facebook thing to be nice, or because she thinks you're just looking to be friends, etc. She will not date you. I don't believe in chasing, ambition, or persistence. If a girl rejects a guy once, he should take the message as she won't ever date him. I won't press a girl who rejected me to "give me a chance". Let them wake up one morning wondering why they're single and can't find any "decent men". On one hand I feel like it would show her that I'm OK with it and am not going to be holding a pissed off grudge, but on the other hand it seems like I'm acting more desperate or trying to be her friend and weasel my way into a relationship. The bolded part is what it's coming out as. Let her go...move on.
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