Sanman Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 So I am not really looking to date. I just got out of a crappy situation with a guy for the last year and a half. I am open to the idea of eventually finding someone but I definitely don't want to look for them. Maybe when one finds me and he seems decent, I will give it a go. But here is the problem: 80% of the men who show interest in me end up wanting to sleep with me within a matter of hours. Or when I talk with them they make stupid comments about perverted stuff and act like they are kidding but I can sense the seriousness in the back of their minds and a slight glimpse in their eyes. Most men I come across wantto hook up with me. I hate it! What happened to getting to know a person first? Is life just all about sex now? I really hate it. Well, you mentioned one of the biggest problems you have in your OP. If you want to be passive in your search all you will get are guys who present themselves to you. Most of these are the aggressive guys who want to sleep with you. I would venture to guess 100% of the guys you meet want to sleep with you in a matter of hours. That really isn't the issue. The question which of these guys are willing to respect your boundaries. A guy who doesn't want to sleep with you is not attracted to you and so probably doesn't want a relationship with you. However, I believe you mean that you want a guy that is less aggressive about getting sex. In that case, you need to put in work finding the guy as it is likely he is the shy type.
musemaj11 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Whats with women who feel that they are entitled to have the best quality men served to them on a silver platter without putting any effort themselves? Real life is not Disney movie ladies.
Author Tasha49 Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 Whats with women who feel that they are entitled to have the best quality men served to them on a silver platter without putting any effort themselves? Real life is not Disney movie ladies. To you and Sanman- I said I am not looking *at the moment* Which means the men I have tried to get to know by taking proper steps will only end up wanting to sleep with me the first night. I am not implying all men need to come to me forever, but that I am simply taking a break from openly looking. I also said that if one happens to fall in front of me... cool! I will see what happens. But until then I feel the need to take a dating break because most of the men so far just want to get in my pants. And that may not seem that big a deal to you guys, but it is to me. Women are more emotional and sex means more to us most of the time.
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