hastytasty Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Hello About six months ago my boyfriend of three years dumped me. I had been a complete btch to him for about a year as I felt that there was somethin more than our relationship could give. I THOUGHT that I wanted to be single, to have the chance to meet someone 'better'. I would get into these anger rages which is so unlike me. He just put up with me and tbh I always thought he would so I pushed it until... he finally had enough and dumped me and I really don't blame him. I have had the worst six months of my life and it's so true that you don't know what you've got til it's gone. I feel terrible for the way I behaved and I have recently been diagnosed with depression. I believe I've had the condition a while, even before he broke up with me. I am on medication and can now see things clearly and I truly regret how I treated my ex. I know he'll never want me back but we are still in contact and I want to apologise, not to make myself feel better but because I don't want him to think my rages were a personal attack against him and that I felt out of control at the time. How should I approach this? What should I tell him? I don't want to make it sound like I am making excuses about my behaviuor I just want to set things straight. Thanks you
Dark Phoenix Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Are you in regular face to face contact? phone contact? facebook? All of these? I think your approach should be dependant on how you usually make contact with him. If you're making most of your contact over the phone or internet I would suggest writing a letter to him (hand written), that way you can get all of your thoughts on paper and do as many revisions as you want. If you make the majority of your contacts face to face I would pull him away for some one on one. sit down and talk to him in this case and just explain to him exactly what happened... even the part about you thinking you would find someone better and intentionally getting him to breakup with you.
Author hastytasty Posted September 11, 2011 Author Posted September 11, 2011 Thanks for your advice. I just don't want it to appear as if I am wanting to get back together. I took the break up really badly. still probably not completely over it but have faced up to my problems and want him to know.
Booyah171 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 My ex and I were together for over a year. Both going through divorces and starting new lives. We bickered back and forth. Mostly it was on though. I kept pushing her away and when she would go away I would want her back. This cycle repeated endlessly. I was miserable with her, and miserable without her. I don't understand the behavior either. I haven't seen her for two months. After literally 30 days she sent me a text asking for her photos back. I told her of course and that was it. No other communication. Good luck. Try to stay strong. It's been a rough weekend for me as well.
insaneinthebrain Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 yeah .. you know.. what sweathart, you have a really simple problem. Has it occured to you to just be honest with him. Talk to him face to face, start off with saying that he shouldnt read too much into it and this is not an attempt to get him back, but that you honestly just want to apologize for the way you acted. DIRECT AND SIMPLE... IT LEAVES NO ROOM FOR HIM TO THINK YOU WANT HIM BACK, HE WILL UNDERSTAND WHY YOU WERE BEING SUCH A ..... well.. B*TCH.... and who knows..... right.. .. he might actually accept. ... anyways, this is what is know as the grass is greener syndrom.. and there are posts about everywhere on this site. Btw... the fact that you thought you could find someone better really says that you were either not happy with him, or that really you dont know how to value what you have. Best of luck.
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