Feel_The_Warmth Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I didn't know whether to put this in breakups or second chances. I'm not trying to get her back, I just really want to thank her. I want to send this sincere and real letter, please help me out. I treated my ex like straight ****, and to be honest, I've treated a lot of people like straight **** in my life. I am one of the most compassionate people I know, I can love like no one else, but at the same time I can be just as hurtful. My whole life I've had this problem, and eventually it came up with my last relationship. She ended up breaking up with me, and I've been chasing her for the last month until someone finally smacked me up and told me the truth about myself. And now I want to send her this letter. ----------------------------------------------------------------------- Dear xxxxx, Please don't immediately disregard this letter. It's not an apology or a desperation for forgiveness. It's a Thank You. You once asked me "Why I thought I could treat you so bad" and I stalled with an unknown answer. People have been giving me advice, taking my side, and helping me move on, but none were really helping me at all. Then I sought out help from people who are of much higher intellect and wisdom. Who had the compassion to tell me the dark truth. Who helped me realize the answer to your question. They put me down hard, but I needed to hear it, and I'm glad someone had the fortitude to show me. The answer? My Ego. Yes, my big fat undeserving ego. I treated you bad because I thought you'd put up with it and stay with me because of my ridiculous ego. In my 24 years, I've learned to love, to hate, to feel, to show compassion, to inspire, and to be inspired. I have loved many and hurt many. And never did I ever learn. Every person that has held significance in my life has proved that everything does indeed happen for a reason. And so have you. My whole life my ego has been inevitably popping his ugly head at the most unnecessary of times. And coincidentally, when your ego is big enough, it hides the fact you have an ego problem. For a month, I've been trying to cope, to feel again, and to move on. But what would this have done for me? Nothing, because my ego would have healed again, and eventually I'd be rooted at square one. Because I learned to love, and eventually lose you, you taught me what I've need to know to be the best person I could ever me. You have directly touched and healed me, whether you believe you deserve credit or not, you do. You will always be an amazing soul with the power to heal the world. Use it. Always. I hope you all the joy and happiness your heart can handle. Thank you for breaking up with me and freeing both of our souls. Good bye.
EgoJoe Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I think the very act of posting this here shows that you are looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear. Been there, done that. It didn't end well. Draw your own conclusion.
Milsch Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Deep down you think it will get her back. There's also a hefty dose of irony in quite how "me, me, me" the letter is... just sayin'.
Author Feel_The_Warmth Posted September 11, 2011 Author Posted September 11, 2011 Your both right Im going to throw the letter away
LuluinAZ Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 This is what those "get your ex-back" books say to say too. And it's transparent. You are the lion chasing the gazelle again. When you catch her, you will spit her out. You are not really in pain or enlightened enough to deserve her yet. Keep working at it.
IfiKnewThen Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 (edited) wow, i think u have learned something. do u feel that maybe you acted a certain way with her with a big assuming ego and not let guard down because it made you feel you had control? i am wondering if you felt that if you acted a certain way with her...and they way worked for u at that point, that if you kept up with that bad behavior it would still "keep her" but it backfired on you. now youre out of control and it zapped you back to reality. you love her but might feel like you abused the privilege of her by letting your ego stand in the way. does that make sense to you? i did this once and seriously lived to regret it. i think the real you is a caring person but you might have gotten caught up in the role of taking charge and suppressing her maybe because you were insecure? anyway, all i can say is please read the book men are from mars and women are from venus and it will help you to not let your ego lead, but instead let your love and better self lead. it really expresses how men and women are different and exams each of our needs and how to treat each other right. its easy to read...shoots straight from the hip. i think your letter is actually good, with the exception of saying "thank you for leaving me you did me a big favor". it sounds kind condescending and still holds on to your ego. i think it best to say.."i am sorry you left me but i feel helpless in getting you back now. i acted like a jerk. period. i cant prove to you how much i realize this now because it will seem like only mere words. but i am working on myself and if ever you want to talk someday...i am here for you. and i am sad and sorry i hurt you and us. i think thats more real, and less ego. and she would appreciate that. even if you dont get her back. if shes what you say she is. a decent girl. Edited September 11, 2011 by IfiKnewThen
Crazy4what Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Dont send her that letter, just vanish drop dead or no more communication whatsoever. The letter is a emotional rush diagram. Just let it go. you made mistake get over it.
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