Phallacy Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 So...we're only going on our second date this evening. She told me last night on our first date that she's going on a business trip for 3 weeks. I told her that's ok. I think it was an awkward moment for the both of us. We kissed and made out. We both enjoy each others company. Would offering to be exclusive with her be too clingy? Part of me wants her to know that I'm ok waiting for her but I also don't want to appear desperate. She leaves Wednesday and I'm fairly certain we'll have at least 3 dates before she leaves.
madjac74 Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 So...we're only going on our second date this evening. She told me last night on our first date that she's going on a business trip for 3 weeks. I told her that's ok. I think it was an awkward moment for the both of us. We kissed and made out. We both enjoy each others company. Would offering to be exclusive with her be too clingy? Part of me wants her to know that I'm ok waiting for her but I also don't want to appear desperate. She leaves Wednesday and I'm fairly certain we'll have at least 3 dates before she leaves. Yes asking to be exclusive after 2 dates would be super clingy. Enjoy your next few dates with her then see how things go while she is a away. Yes its possible to know after two dates that you only want to be with this woman but there is no need to rush anything especially if you get the feeling that she feels the same.
ja123 Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Don't bring up exclusivity for a while - at least 2-3 months. Is your wanting to talk about exclusivity now because you want to make sure SHE will be exclusive to you (particularly because she's goiing away on a business trip and could get up to all sorts)? I'm just wondering how much "jealousy" and "control" might be factors here. Although easier said than done (I should know) it's important to reign yourself in and not start projecting your dreams on another person too soon. It could set you up for an emotional fall. It takes time to get to know someone. Take that time. Be patient. And hold off on the sex for a while. Perhaps date a bit too so as you can keep your perspective on the situation.
Author Phallacy Posted September 10, 2011 Author Posted September 10, 2011 Good questions...I think I was just ready to stop looking so to speak and focus one person, but this is quite the predicament. Part of me wants to tell her what I think she wants to hear? That I won't be dating others while she's gone? I'm ok with that actually but is that not the same thing as exclusive? I don't want to drive her away or look clingy, but I do want her to know I am very interested and not looking around while she's gone.
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