Coupedriver Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 "But I agree with the others, definitely don't give gifts back! Toss them, burn them, sell them, give them away but don't give them back. That shows her it hurts too much for you to keep them. " So why is this a BAD thing..? Or a good thing that it shows her it HURTS to much to keep them..? I am sorry for mis-understanding....
M2155 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 My opinion, just imagining myself in the other person's shoes: It's nice of you to return my belongings. I hurt you. You really didn't need to do that but it shows you don't hate me or have respect for my belongings. I think that's perfectly fine to return. And like the others said, we don't want her using "stuff" as an excuse to bother you in the future. Now if you return the things I gave you as gifts, first I don't want them. I didn't expect them. What are you trying to tell me by doing this? Why are you so hurt that you can't stand to look at this? Did you think I just gave this to you to keep you as a BF/GF? Are you this affected? If you don't want the gifts around, get rid of them, but don't give them back. If it was a diamond ring, yes. Otherwise no. Get some cash for it if you can;)
Coupedriver Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I guess its me BOTHERING her.The stuff is hers...I didnt buy any of it...Its some Charms she left here,a quilt she made and some other stuff...."WHY are you so HURT that you cant stand to look at them..?" Because you lied and cheated on me...and yes..I am THAT affected by them...I'm sorry....its been a HORRIBLE day of crying and my heart still breaking....The 6000.00 dollar engagement ring still sits in a box.....I know I have to get rid of it but every time I pull into the Pawn Shop...I cry.I sorry.....
M2155 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 If it's her stuff, return it. If it's a gift she gave to you for keeps, then get rid of it. $6K engagement ring? Yes this sounds very painful:( I've known guys who broke off engagements keep the ring for quite a while.
windmask Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 listen man dont go to her place and give it unless u leaving it in front of the door then its fine. i really think u should get a friend of urs a mutual friend if u can and ask him/her to take the box to the ex. shes like stringing u along. u shouldnt do what she wants u to do man u should do what will heal u and u seeing her while ur emotions are running a bit high isnt to smart. best of luck i would get a friend to take her stuff to her or leave it by the door when shes not around. i wouldnt personally go there and talk to her and then give the box. its like giving her the satisfaction even after she broke ur heart. ur call
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