Kyle787 Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I'm 20 and have never been in a relationship just because I didn't want one until now. There are two girls now who I am interested in. But.. after talking to a mutual best friend, I don't know what to do. Girl 1: Very attractive and I like her most of all since we always have great talks and many things in common. Problem is, she can't help her feelings toward this guy who cheated on her before and got back with him. We are very close and she does think I am a very sweet guy, but I feel she is comfortable having me as a close friend now. Girl 2: A tiny bit less cute but has an amazing body. She has never had a boyfriend because every guy who likes her acts way too immature and won't honestly express his feelings. We talk a lot and she is always so nice but our conversations quickly turn one sided probably because she doesn't have much experience with guys. However I would still consider dating her. My best friend (also best friend of the two girls) is a girl as well and she knows I like girl 1 more than girl two. However, she told me last night that there is nothing we can do about girl 1 since she is being so stubborn with guys and that I should seriously try asking girl 2 out (then she paused) and said "well then girl 1 would be jealous and want you more" What's the deal? Do girls only become attracted to those they don't have? I don't get what I should be doing.
aj22one Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Why don't you just ask out girl 2? She's got less baggage and sounds really cool. And stop getting advice from your best friend. Just do what you want. You're the man, man.
rollingstone Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Sounds like you don't respect Girl 2, so do both yourselves a favor and stay away. Obviously you like Girl 1, but you might be stuck in the friend zone. If she treats you like her security blanket when she is feeling vulnerable then I say look elsewhere.
bac Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 (edited) If you like girl 1, you should ask her out first. When you are done with her, ask out girl 2. All men are about the same about sex. Most men need and want sex. But, every girl is very different about sex. No one can predict anything about female mind unless you know a girl personally very well. Most girls need a R. Edited September 10, 2011 by bac
Feelin Frisky Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Girl 1 seems a heart-ache waiting to happen. She's not that into you if at all--she's got her heart invested in that other guy and that is unresolved. You don't know what she'll do. Young women sometimes do wicked things subconsciously--like use you to make her real love jealous while lying to herself so much she actually believes her own lie and is in denial about it regardless of the damage it does to you. If she isn't burning bridges to get with you, you probably shouldn't think something good is going to happen with her. If you give girl 2 a chance, make the commitment to not drop her like a rock if girl 1 snaps her fingers.
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