rollingstone Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I was finally asked out by this guy I really like and I am SO excited But something he said bothered me. It might be nothing but I'd really like to get some honest reactions. We were chatting and poking fun at each other, and then he said something like "You don't seem like the nurturing type" in response to my story about taking care of a sick friend. Intrigued, I asked how one would come across as the "nurturing type". And his response was "Oh I don't know....calm, cool, and collected". So in essence, I am none of those things. Is this disrespectful? Granted I am somewhat of a free spirit and I may get a little more flustered than normal when I am around him, but I don't think of myself as an insecure, crazy, scatterbrain....especially one who wouldn't take care of her friends Perhaps I am reading too far into things? I don't know... I'm being extra protective of myself because 6 months ago I got out of a relationship with a complete ******* who I later realized never truly respected me or anyone for that matter. Thank you!
Author rollingstone Posted September 10, 2011 Author Posted September 10, 2011 I'm just going to bump this up once to see if anyone has some thoughts!
LittleTiger Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 If you were joking around and poking fun at each other I don't think I'd take it very seriously. The main problem here is your reaction to what he said. Do you think it was a disrespectful thing for him to say about you - that you're not the 'nurturing type' and you're not 'calm, cool and collected'? If you really aren't, then he was just being humourously honest. Is it really that insulting? If what he said bothers you, I think it reflects more on your opinion of yourself than on him.
Imageiko Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Seems like you're overeating ms calm cool and collected...
FitChick Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Seems like you're overeating ms calm cool and collected... Well spotted! :laugh:
Cee Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Over the years, I have been called "airhead," "flighty," "space cadet," "in a different orbit," etc... By my BEST FRIENDS. Learn to embrace what people see in you and laugh along with them. I may be a scatterbrain, but I have managed to have a good love life. And I have a lot of friends because I'm caring and loyal. It stings a little to hear other people's perceptions. But when they say in a laughing and loving way, you realize that nobody's perfect. Have a good date.
Art_Critic Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Is this disrespectful? No.. it's what is known as "an observation" .. he most likely think you come across that way on purpose so no harm no foul...
coolheadal Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Taken out of jest so don't worry about his comment. That's how guys are at times he should have known better what he had said. Almost like he has put his foot into his mouth. He should have told he was sorry for making that comment at you. Just wrong to say no matter what you do. I think that's great your taken care of sick friend. Some guys just don't know when to shut-up!
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