dizy Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I told myself that depending on whether the guy is shy, he might take more or less time to propose a date, and to show his interest, but the fact is, every guy who had a crush on me recently seems to behave in the same way. They will be surprised and happy if I contact them in any way: facebook, text msg, and have nice conversations with me, but never contact me first. I am pretty convince that they are not that interested in me or in having a relationship but my female friends keep telling me how guys get discouraged really fast and I have to show more interest if I have feelings for them. I have been taught since I was a kid that everything in life that you really want, you have to do your 100% to get it. and the reason why I am not flirting/showing interest intensely is because I don't have anyone specific in mind and I understand that guys can feel that I am not crazy about them. but the problem is: if they never show any initiative, I will never have the chance to get to know them, and How can I ever fall for any of them if I don't even know them that well? My question for guys: what will be the reason for you to ask your crush(might be small or big) on a date? Would you not rather try to forget about the person since you don't see the person anymore?
coolheadal Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Complex life to be in there. Just be yourself and try not to act different. Look for a guy that is more like yourself or you might actually run into one. These things happen out of the blue. You got to take a chance even call up the guy and say you want to go out with me. Break the rules if you have too. Of course most guys won't ask you out and those that do are the ones are more aggressive.
Author dizy Posted September 10, 2011 Author Posted September 10, 2011 thanks for the reply. I am a bit confused, so basically you are saying that I have to get guys or otherwise only aggressive guys will try to get me?
Saxis Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Stay away from subtlety, especially with shy guys. If you want a shy guy to ask you out, you'll probably have to hit him with a "So when are you going to ask me out?? ;)".
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