Buttercup84 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 We broke up end of July and only this morning have I started deleting his pictures off facebook. It was really hard but I also felt a bit of relief. I have some photos on my laptop but I want to keep some. One day I want to look at these photos when I am married ( hopefully ). Do you have any pictures left ?
mike588 Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Know what you mean.I'm 6 weeks into being dumped and finally today I remove pictures I had of her on my screen saver and de-friended her on face book. I hesitated for weeks but now am glad I did. Nothing wrong with saving pictures.Just put them in a box and don't look at them for awhile. One day down the road you will look at them, look back on the relationship and it won't hurt cause you have moved on and found something better. Iv'e done this and now when a relationship goes sour I look at the pictures of a former ex and realize I survived the breakup and they don't mean anything to me anymore.
MissMoni Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I know what you guys mean..it can be hard to do this, but it can also be good for healing. I remember my ex deleting all of our profile pics together a couple weeks later. At the time, it really pissed me off and I thought he was intentionally doing it to hurt my feelings and was really hurt. But, in time, I did end up deleting/detagging all of our pictures together. It's part of the process. It's actually weird you mentioned this. I'm a very sentimental person, so I keep EVERYTHING. I have a box in my closet that has old letters, cards, photos, ticket stubs, dried flowers, and an expensive necklace he gave me. I haven't been able to part with it, though I did get rid of things like stuffed animals and Mix CDs. I don't look at it that often, but sometimes I bring it out and it's a very surreal feeling - I look at our pictures together and it's almost as if I'm looking at another couple. I guess that means I'm getting closer to finally putting this behind me. But sometimes I wonder if keeping those memories is stopping me from letting go fully..after all, we all have the memories in our heads/hearts. Congratulations on deleting OP! I know it must have been hard for you.
Dark Phoenix Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Congratulations on deleting the pics ButterCup. After my breakup I deleted the pictures from facebook almost immediately. I never untagged myself from pics of us though and I still haven't (just clicked "remove from profile" on the tagged photos of us) because I didn't want to possibly hurt the person who has the album. While removing the tagged photos from my profile (just a few days ago) I noticed that some of them were in her albums (I assume she missed a few while she deleted our pics). I also proceeded to block her on facebook and google+, about 5 months too late but I still feel good about doing so. As for the pics of us that I own, I still have all of them on my computer and I have a dvd that I made with all of the best pics of us with songs playing while the slide show rolls. I originally made this dvd as an attempt to get her back, silly idea and I'm glad I didn't follow through with it. I put the dvd out of sight and the pics are buried in some folders on my computer. I plan on putting them into a .zip archive and putting a password on it that I won't know.
triphopper414 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 Good for you ButterCup!! I found great strength and resolve when deleting my ex from Facebook, and: LinkedIn, Skype, Google+, and my phone. I deleted all of the pictures of him. It still hurts after four months but I also deleted the temptation to contact him. He wanted to be friends and I thought I did too, but he hurt me to the point where being friends would be meaningless and make me resent him more. I even said that I did not want to talk him for a while, and a while means for the rest of my life I have decided--I did not tell him this, but I thinking with all of the "unfriending" going on, he gets the point. This will sound dumb but unfriending him on facebook was more difficult than I thought becasue I was acknowledging that I lost not only a romantic partner but also a friend who I shared my thoughts and feelings with who comforted me. But it is time to move on! I do worry about him and I will always care about him even though he was deliberately deceitful (blocking me from viewing his facebook wall and lying to me thinking I would not put the pieces together). Enough is enough!
Mack05 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 We broke up end of July and only this morning have I started deleting his pictures off facebook. It was really hard but I also felt a bit of relief. I have some photos on my laptop but I want to keep some. One day I want to look at these photos when I am married ( hopefully ). Do you have any pictures left ? Real positive step, I'm proud of your buttercup. I cleaned my last ex out after 2 months. No pictures, emails, texts, contact info, presents, etc etc. It felt great. It's a real positive step in your recovery
M2155 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 I am one of the few people left with hardcopy photos- started before the social networking era- so I have a few of those. I like having a catalog of hot exboyfriends to think back and smile in the distant future . If I have any on FB, it's group photo or has a lot of comments I liked so that doesn't bother me too much, I rarely look at them. I really need to defriend on FB but we have so many mutual friends, go to some of the same places etc, that I wouldn't be able to escape not knowing how great he is doing. I think I will end up like DarkPhoenix though, better late than never. It's funny though the pictures don't bother me as much as the more subtle things that trigger memories like seeing the car he drives, his favorite team is playing, the show we loved to watch etc... But, it's slowly getting better.
sleepykitten Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 I deleted all his pictures from fb and laptop the week we split up as i know what i am like when i have these things in the house, i also gave him back some scrap books and all the cards he sent me when he came to pick up his stuff. I have over the past couple of months got rid of some presents etc, mainly because i am moving and most of it was stuff i didnt really like or want, and i dont want reminders of him in my new pace. My only dilema is a pair of christian loubuton shoes....too expensive just to give away to a charity shop, especially when you know one of the volenteers are going to take them home! At the moment they are hidden away ...any ideas???
Author Buttercup84 Posted September 25, 2011 Author Posted September 25, 2011 I deleted all his pictures from fb and laptop the week we split up as i know what i am like when i have these things in the house, i also gave him back some scrap books and all the cards he sent me when he came to pick up his stuff. I have over the past couple of months got rid of some presents etc, mainly because i am moving and most of it was stuff i didnt really like or want, and i dont want reminders of him in my new pace. My only dilema is a pair of christian loubuton shoes....too expensive just to give away to a charity shop, especially when you know one of the volenteers are going to take them home! At the moment they are hidden away ...any ideas??? Send them to me haha. No , how about eBay ? Buy yourself something nice with it .
M2155 Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 I deleted all his pictures from fb and laptop the week we split up as i know what i am like when i have these things in the house, i also gave him back some scrap books and all the cards he sent me when he came to pick up his stuff. I have over the past couple of months got rid of some presents etc, mainly because i am moving and most of it was stuff i didnt really like or want, and i dont want reminders of him in my new pace. My only dilema is a pair of christian loubuton shoes....too expensive just to give away to a charity shop, especially when you know one of the volenteers are going to take them home! At the moment they are hidden away ...any ideas??? Yeah don't let those go! What size are they Sell them on Ebay?
sleepykitten Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 They are a uk size 6, unworn (not even the bedroom-yet!!) purple, very uncomfortable but great to look at! Yes maybe will ebay them if I can get round to working out camera etc. Want them to go to a good home! i would buy a different pair with the money as always wanted some of those shoes for years.
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