GirlyGirly Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Hi Everyone Im really in need of help, ive been with my partner for 3 years and im very happy ive just grown to co-depedant i find my partner is the only one who can make me happy by just knowing he is there he recently went away for work for a few weeks and it was the most difficult time in my life i would sit by my the phone always checking my facebook incase he pops up online it was just so painful and i did try to go out with friends but i couldnt beat the sadness and couldnt stop checking my phone and i dont really have any real close friends to cry on their shoulder when he came home things slowly got back to normal until now he has to return to where he was for another few weeks and its only came up suddenly and its just too overwhelming i really dont wanna feel as bad as did last time ! I love this man but i need to learn to step out on my own and not think this is the end of the world ! What can i do ?
Pasttense Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Meet new people. Develop some close friends. Become closer to your family. Start some hobbies.
HappyPanda Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Join a class doing something that interests you? You can meet new people, and have a lovely lil distraction... Start working out, if you dont already, Im sure the despair would dissipate, and you'd sleep really well I was extremely codependent on my first boyfriend, so I know exactly how you feel... I will never be that way again... In fact, Ive gone so far to the other extreme, that my boyfriend sometimes complains that Im too busy, and that I need to make more time for him. Its a lesser of two evils. In hindsight, I was dealing with a lot of familial stress at the time, namely, the death of my mother, and the consequent fear of abandonment that came with it... Forgive me if Im asking too much, but have you recently been through some sort of trauma that would leave you feeling this anxiety? It could be that this is more psychological than romantic.
Author GirlyGirly Posted September 10, 2011 Author Posted September 10, 2011 Join a class doing something that interests you? You can meet new people, and have a lovely lil distraction... Start working out, if you dont already, Im sure the despair would dissipate, and you'd sleep really well I was extremely codependent on my first boyfriend, so I know exactly how you feel... I will never be that way again... In fact, Ive gone so far to the other extreme, that my boyfriend sometimes complains that Im too busy, and that I need to make more time for him. Its a lesser of two evils. In hindsight, I was dealing with a lot of familial stress at the time, namely, the death of my mother, and the consequent fear of abandonment that came with it... Forgive me if Im asking too much, but have you recently been through some sort of trauma that would leave you feeling this anxiety? It could be that this is more psychological than romantic. Its really the threat of him leaving forever like they are gonna offer him an amazing job he wont resist no matter how many times he sits down and tells me i have nothing to worry about he wants a live here with me when hes gone my brain just goes back to thinking the worst about everything !
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