Casablanca Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I'm curious to what others might say on this...for me I thought it was getting over it, where the thought of her didnt make my stomach turn, but that changed a week or so ago. I sent a letter to my ex (yeah I posted about this), just thanking her for everything and for being an important part of me for a period of time....for me this was a huge step as I've always been a proud man who hates to admit when he is wrong and it was just something about letting her know that I didnt hate her and that she is still important to me because of the person she has made me into day just made me feel good and I felt like I have finally finished the chapter on that part of the book.
SugarLily Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Closure for me is just acknowledging and accepting that I am never going to marry this guy. I guess just knowing in my heart that we have no future - and that there is someone else out there waiting for me. I can't wait to look back 'in retrospect' and thank God that I am not meant to be with that other loser.
shayla Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Closure for me was being told by the other woman during our confrontation that when my ex told her all about his sexual past, there were many women, and most of them were from the 3 years we had been together. Finally I had my answers, the truth was finally being told (too bad he was still lying to her but not my problem.) He could no longer blameshift and make it seem like I was accusing him without merit, or that my issues with him were trivial.
Unrequitedlove Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 For me, closure is having all my questions answered. I'm just sick and tired of wondering and the "what-if's", which I think is preventing me from healing at a steadier and faster pace.
Nohbody Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Making a decision about how I am going to move forward in my life without the other person, without regard to that person's feelings (or lack thereof). Never wanted to get to that place, but what reasonable choice did I have? Or did any of us have?
Surfer Girl Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Knowing they don't want you in their life
Buttercup84 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Knowing that he lied to me while we were together and had a dating profile the entire time . A real man would not treat me like that . Plus he chose not to ever see me again .
coltsfan1 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Making a decision about how I am going to move forward in my life without the other person, without regard to that person's feelings (or lack thereof). Never wanted to get to that place, but what reasonable choice did I have? Or did any of us have? couldn't have said it better myself
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