mtber75 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I know this cute banker at my local branch...I always wanted to ask her out since last year (was in another relationship than). Now I'm really interested in her (single again). Now I know that she's probably just being friendly as part of her job (talking to me as a customer). But I ask her all the usual probing questions (what are you doing over the weekend, are you getting married yet jokingly) and she seem receptive and joking along. My question is how do I ask her out without putting her on the spot? I frequent this bank so she sees me all the time. I don't want her to feel awkward. Even if she's not interested, that's cool with me. I'll just move on if she says no. Do you ladies like it when guys come up to you and ask you out aggressively? I always found that to be lame and immature...I have to build up to it (with questions) than I ask a girl out. Ladies' and mature guys' opinions are much appreciated:)
rightfield Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 There is no way to ask her out without putting her on the spot. That's the nature of it. And that's why it's so much fun when a girl says "yes" in that situation. I'd ask her if she'd like to have lunch sometime. If she declines, be gracious and be just as nice on your future trips to the bank as you have always been. Who knows, somewhere down the road she might ask if the invitation is still open, or even set you up with a cute friend. Go for it.
Easyguy14 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 There is no way to ask her out without putting her on the spot. That's the nature of it. And that's why it's so much fun when a girl says "yes" in that situation. I'd ask her if she'd like to have lunch sometime. If she declines, be gracious and be just as nice on your future trips to the bank as you have always been. Who knows, somewhere down the road she might ask if the invitation is still open, or even set you up with a cute friend. Go for it. yes I think the best thing to do in this scenario is to already have a date with yourself someplace and invite her along. it works better than the old, boring "lets have lunch some time" line because it doesn't finalize anything with her from my experience and it gives her a good chance to back out.
sm1tten Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 You do know you can walk up to a woman and ask her out without it being "aggressive" right? Are there any local coffee shops or diners or anything? You could be like, hey have you ever been ___? No matter what she says, you can still ask after that. It's still putting her on the spot but it's not as high-pressure IMO as "will you go out with me" because it's somewhere she'd probably already be familiar with, etc.
dizy Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I like your attitude =). You have no idea how guys can get offended when they get refused. I would suggest you to propose somethings specific. It can be anything: restaurant, movie, museum etc. and the benefit of that is she can refuse it more easily if she is not interested. If you ask her to see a specific movie and she is not interested in dating you, she would probably say she has already seen that one etc. and then you just wait, if she proposes something else in return then she is interested, if she is not, at least you can continue the discussion like: oh thats unfortunate, I really like the movie. etc without being too awkward
coolheadal Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I did that once with a Cashier at a local supermarket. But good to know if they got bf or husband. The rejection if it's bad it hard for men though. To me the best way to go about it is ask her when does she go for lunch? Ask her if you going out to lunch and if it was okay to met her their? Say the lunch would be on your. See how she reacts to that question? You might end up with her saying sir I can't associate outside with our customers that way. She might loose her job. Another way you can get around that is ask her what time she gets off work. Once at use to work at a major bank it was me another another teller there. This girl a customer came in she was cute so I knew where she live since I had the info from the NCR teller computer. It was hard for me to ask the customer out on a date though. My co-teller he was guy told me you should go for it. Of course if she had complained about it I would have lost my position there. The best way to do this would catch them going into their vehicle when leaving the bank.
Author mtber75 Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 I like your attitude =). You have no idea how guys can get offended when they get refused. I would suggest you to propose somethings specific. It can be anything: restaurant, movie, museum etc. and the benefit of that is she can refuse it more easily if she is not interested. If you ask her to see a specific movie and she is not interested in dating you, she would probably say she has already seen that one etc. and then you just wait, if she proposes something else in return then she is interested, if she is not, at least you can continue the discussion like: oh thats unfortunate, I really like the movie. etc without being too awkward That's a good point...I hate rejections especially coming from someone that I'm really interested in:( I didn't get a chance to ask her out last week because she was busy with a customer (that day). But we'll see what happen when I go back into the bank:)
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