Rapunzel Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Here's my dilemma, I'm dating this guy for a bit over a year, when we met he was separated - I stuck by his side during the divorce ( all the ups and downs included) , he lost his job , had to move back to his folks and we seen each other every so often. A year has passed, he is in a job he hates, never enough money for anything - I feel we are going in a big circle - nothing changed. We are still at square 1. He does not make me any small gifts - christmas I got nothing due to the empty hole in his pocket. I thought / hoped when he works in this new job for a while things would get better - nevertheless it has not. I slowly feel like I'm just a comfort cushion to him. He has expensive hobbies and there we started fighting about it. I do not agree - when you have nothing and just start to have a steady income that you blow it right away, not caring about the people who help you out ( parents, friends) Oh, and we talked about it too, but he puts on the 'pity me' attitude and somehow i can't seem to get through. I'm about to end this before I get more pissed/drained. His wife left him with the words "I want someone who treats me nice" ----> I can see why that is.
Bridgey Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I feel like I missed something here...do you help him financially? Is that how he's using you? Or are you just upset that you never get gifts because he spends his money on things for him. Because those are two totally different situations.
Mimolicious Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I'm lost too ... BUT if that is what his wife said, then take that as an indicator that he is a selfish person and would only pamper himself. C'est La Vie Bella!
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