red shoes Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Went out with a guy, who has a nice enough face though balding. No issues if he's great to be with. Chatted over dinner. Then an hour later, he asked for the check, without asking if I was ready to leave (even though we had finished the food we ordered). After that, he just stood up to leave. We left the restaurant and I asked if he was walking home. He said he was because he was going to have an early morning the next day. It was almost like he bolted! Like he suddenly realised I had leprosy and ran. It was on record the shortest and most bizarre ending to a date I've ever had. I don't know what happened and the whole thing left me scratching my head. I don't know if it was something I said or he just didn't like what me. I'm not overly bitter about it since I wasn't attracted to him. I was just shocked enough to post this on LS. Any guy ever did this to a girl? Any other girl experienced this?
madjac74 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Yes I have. There was totally no attraction and I felt very uncomfortable. I did later apologize to her but it really was an awful date. She kept persisting even when I was clearly not interested so I felt the need to get out of there fast!
Author red shoes Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 I didn't feel any attraction either but I didn't bolt. I just thought we could at least have a civilized end to a not-great date. He called me after but it went to voicemail as I ended up going to drinks with a friend and her co-workers. That was a lot more fun! The voicemail was of him saying that it was definitely great to meet me and for me to have a good night's sleep. I know he was just being nice or guilt-stricken after his legendary bolt. But seriously, I would have respected him more had he stuck to his bolt. Instead of trying to act all nice and polite after.
madjac74 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I certainly would have stuck around just to have a fun night out as well. I have done it many times and was honest with them that I wasn't attracted to them in that way and many of them are still good friends. But this situation was very uncomfortable to where she was staring at me and not really saying much but accusing me of being shy and not talking. Anyone that knows me, knows that I am not a loss for conversation but I can also be a good listener. In this case i was a loss for both and that isn't cause for a good date. Yet she still leaned in to kiss me and I completely turned away and she kissed my head. haha
skelterhelter Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Maybe he had to take a sh*t? Sorry, I had to I really can't think of a reason why he'd take off so fast after eating. I don't think you did anything wrong.
Author red shoes Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 Maybe he had to take a sh*t? Sorry, I had to I really can't think of a reason why he'd take off so fast after eating. I don't think you did anything wrong. I would take your reason any day! That would be better than him thinking how he didn't like the way I look or something.
country_gurl Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Maybe he wasn't really "single" and he spotted someone in the restaurant who he knew/knew him and he was fearful they'd see him with you and tell his wife/significant other.
joeyanna Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Went out with a guy, who has a nice enough face though balding. No issues if he's great to be with. Chatted over dinner. Then an hour later, he asked for the check, without asking if I was ready to leave (even though we had finished the food we ordered). After that, he just stood up to leave. We left the restaurant and I asked if he was walking home. He said he was because he was going to have an early morning the next day. It was almost like he bolted! Like he suddenly realised I had leprosy and ran. It was on record the shortest and most bizarre ending to a date I've ever had. I don't know what happened and the whole thing left me scratching my head. I don't know if it was something I said or he just didn't like what me. I'm not overly bitter about it since I wasn't attracted to him. I was just shocked enough to post this on LS. Any guy ever did this to a girl? Any other girl experienced this? I had a date with a guy where he hardly spoke to me, I had to initiate the conversation 90% of the time up to the point where we spent the entire 20 minute train ride home not speaking as I had run out of things to ask him, he then suggested we go out for an early dinner and he finished the meal in 20 minutes and seemed in a hurry to leave. We parted ways with me thinking what a disaster that was, I arrived home to a text from him that he sent before he left the restaurant saying what a lovely time he'd had and couldn't wait to see me again. Is should have known it wouldn't go well as I suggested we spoke before we met and his call to me the day before the date lasted exactly 2 minutes and 47 seconds. Nothing ever happened between us romantically (he wants there to be more) but he's turned out to be one of my closest friends so you never know what you're date is thinking.
madjac74 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I had a date with a guy where he hardly spoke to me, I had to initiate the conversation 90% of the time up to the point where we spent the entire 20 minute train ride home not speaking as I had run out of things to ask him, he then suggested we go out for an early dinner and he finished the meal in 20 minutes and seemed in a hurry to leave. We parted ways with me thinking what a disaster that was, I arrived home to a text from him that he sent before he left the restaurant saying what a lovely time he'd had and couldn't wait to see me again. Is should have known it wouldn't go well as I suggested we spoke before we met and his call to me the day before the date lasted exactly 2 minutes and 47 seconds. Nothing ever happened between us romantically (he wants there to be more) but he's turned out to be one of my closest friends so you never know what you're date is thinking. Your presence was magnificent enough! haha
joeyanna Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Your presence was magnificent enough! haha Is that more sarcasm? lol
madjac74 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Is that more sarcasm? lol You catch on quickly young LS dork. The "game" is strong in you!
joeyanna Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 You catch on quickly young LS dork. The "game" is strong in you! why thank Jedi Master but you ain't seen nothing yet!!
Author red shoes Posted September 10, 2011 Author Posted September 10, 2011 Maybe he wasn't really "single" and he spotted someone in the restaurant who he knew/knew him and he was fearful they'd see him with you and tell his wife/significant other. We were sitting in the corner at the back of a busy restaurant and from where he was sitting, he could only see the wall whereas I could see the entire front of the restaurant so unless he saw a ghost in the wall, he didn't see his wife/girlfriend. I guess this is dating. Some people leave you wondering whether you might be the problem.
Author red shoes Posted September 10, 2011 Author Posted September 10, 2011 Maybe he was loveshy? Didn't look like. He was chatty and seemed like he was trying to even act confident at one point.
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