smk Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 so about a month ago i met someone online. We go talking over text initially and this person said that they were developing feelings for me etc... this was about 4 days into us talking and i kind brushed it off and said we should take things slowly. anyways a few days later we met and had the most amazing sex i have ever had in my life - omfg it was friggin awesome... we then met again a couple of days later and once again had an amazing time... anyways we have been keeping this up for about 5 odd weeks now - i have not been sleeping with anyone else in this period however my 'friend' confessed that they had been sleeping elsewhere too... i will be honest this did make me a little jealous but i kinda left it at that... all of a sudden though my 'friend' over the last couple of weeks has now been getting quite distant and snappy - i mean initially we used to speak pretty much everyday and it did always pretty much end becoming dirty talk however this has virtually died down. so anyways last night i decided to ask if everything was ok and i go a pretty strange response - how friend is really tired of all the randoms always asking to meet up and that is making friend really upset, etc... and its not personal, and how i am supposedly quite full on - all i generally ask in terms of being full on is making an effort to get to know the person... anyways i think i may have developed some feelings but seeing as we have just been fooling around i decided not to mention it. anyways i guess what i'm getting at is should i just leave it and find myself another person or still keep in touch and continue with the way things are going hoping that things do change over time?? ps we have a 9 yr age diff - i am 27 and 'friend' is 19 and about to start university...
Kindaconfused_77 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Shes 19 and about to start Uni? ITs not looking very good, I'm afraid. Shes going to be meting lots of people her age and having the time of her life, so if what you want out of this thing is more than NSA, then you are in for a heartbreak, best to cut losses and move on. If you are still up for casual sex with her, give her her space to sort her stuff out, let her know you'll be available and she may be back for more of that great sex and fun time when she feels up to it (or when she discovers she may not have the same great sexual chemistry with everyone she hooks up with). But in either situation, keep your expectations low and look for the next thing, especially considering shes about to start Uni and time is a precious commodity she is more likely to spend on studies and new friends, than a past hookup.
Author smk Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 hey KF, Iguess it kinda makes sense to have the lowest of expectations in the situation especially seeing as she is starting university in like 10 days time... i guess i should just give her some space and hey if down the road she still wants to come around then she has my number and best to take it from there... i never thought that i would actually develop feelings though so its one of those tough things - but theyre not serious feelings - i think its more of a case of me wanting to be in the position of calling things off and having a bruised ego...lol...
Emilia Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 If your ego is bruised then you care. I don't really know how you avoid having feelings for someone you enjoy spending time with and have great sex with. Sex is only casual when it's not done properly anyway
Author smk Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 If your ego is bruised then you care. I don't really know how you avoid having feelings for someone you enjoy spending time with and have great sex with. Sex is only casual when it's not done properly anyway wow i have never thought of it that way... well truth be told i do care - i have developed feelings over the last few weeks and the time we have spent together... i do however realise though that because of the age difference and the fact that she is starting university and stuff chances of their being anything more than what already have is slim to none... i have met other people however because i cant seem to get past the kissing stage simply because it just doesnt feel as great as with the NSA...
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