SJC2008 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I've been talking to a girl I met as of late. So far I have called her 3 times and texted her once. She has returned my calls each time and my text. So far she has not called me unless I have called her. She has only texted me once without texting her (and it was a car question as I am in auto service). I know its the mans job to pursue but after three calls I am at the point where I'm ready for her to show some initiative and contact me without contacting her first. Agree?
GivenUp0083 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I agree with Cypress, what are the topics of your phone discussions? Have you asked her on a date? Is she refusing your or blowing you off? It's not so much about how many times you call her first vs how many times she calls you first. Grow a pair, act like a man that you claim to understand is supposed to act, and see what she's doing this weekend and ask her to a specific date at a specific time, pick her up, offer to pay for her night unless she insists she pays for herself, treat her with respect, have fun, make her laugh, take her home at a reasonable hour, kiss her goodnight.....then come back and we'll help you with the next move.
coolheadal Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I got one of those now to deal with myself. Friends tell me to call her up. Which I did what a good thing I did. She called me up and left me a message. That she was sick and could talk to me until she got better. But I still called her up anyway and to be sure enough you could hear how sick she was. But I am not going push it and be a pain. Let her call me when she's better as she said she will. If I don't hear back from her on 9/10 then I'll be calling her to check to see how she's doing. Again everyone here can't say be a man when you don't want to get these type of women turned off from you calling them up so many times. It's also called being a NAT.
musemaj11 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 One fact is that women are less able to restrain emotional desires than men. If a woman is truly into you, she won't be able to contain herself from contacting you. So if you have always been the one initiating contacts, that means chances are she is simply not that into you. If you are desperate, remain persistent. But if you have other options, better move on.
coolheadal Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 One fact is that women are less able to restrain emotional desires than men. If a woman is truly into you, she won't be able to contain herself from contacting you. So if you have always been the one initiating contacts, that means chances are she is simply not that into you. If you are desperate, remain persistent. But if you have other options, better move on. But once you call them they can either hang you up or call you back and leave you a message. I check my cell and she called me a few times so there should be some interest. Just have to take a chance you never know what goes on in the mind of a Women? One final note, if she brushes you off or make up excuses why they can't talk to you like. I have another important call I must take. So that right there should tell you something. Your call to her isn't important enough. Doing that is just play rude on her part!
smudge21 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I agree you should ask her out - if it's still only friendly, then just keep it that way but make it clear you are interested. At the moment, just sounds like you're friends who hardly know each other so a bit much to expect any sort of contact really. I know that when a girl is interested you won't have time to post on here asking questions. She'll call, text, email, whatever it takes - yeah it may still be subtle stuff, but it'll be clear she's interested. There may be no feelings for you there, but it can't help in finding out. Be a gentleman and if she says no, then no harm done.
muse08 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 One fact is that women are less able to restrain emotional desires than men. If a woman is truly into you, she won't be able to contain herself from contacting you. So if you have always been the one initiating contacts, that means chances are she is simply not that into you. LOL... you're funny...OH! and wrong.
coolheadal Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 If the girl is sick with the flu I say let her get better and she'll call when she does if she tells you so that's what she'll do. I don't seen point on calling her when she's so sick just to hear she's doing better.
musemaj11 Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 LOL... you're funny...OH! and wrong. Lol, I grew up with six women in the household. I know women like the back of my hand. When a woman is truly crazy about a guy, she will even stare at her phone all night long waiting for him to call and if he doesnt call, she will eventually call him herself because she cant take it anymore. To the OP, What you should do is stop contacting her. Let her initiate the next few contacts. If she doesnt, then she is just 'meh' toward you.
coolheadal Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Lol, I grew up with six women in the household. I know women like the back of my hand. When a woman is truly crazy about a guy, she will even stare at her phone all night long waiting for him to call and if he doesnt call, she will eventually call him herself because she cant take it anymore. To the OP, What you should do is stop contacting her. Let her initiate the next few contacts. If she doesnt, then she is just 'meh' toward you. For some women, but for different cultures it's the other way around. Hey don't call her and see what happens? Is pretty much the case here. If she likes me if she likes me not? Is another way to put this too. Too much of a guessing game to get into one of these type of girls head! We all here can only second guess what she would do or not!
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