Will he abandon his provocative behaviors? Do men change? Second chances?

[FrustratedStandards]

Before my previous disappointment, I was dating a guy for about 6 months.

 

The reason I left him was because he was very flirty and provocative in his behaviors. He would grind with girls and put his face to theirs, even if I was out with him! I felt so disrespected and embarrassed that I left him.

 

6 months later, I decide to go to my regular spots again, where I bumped into him. After that time, we got back in touch. He seems changed, and from what I hear from trusted sources, he is VERY different.

 

Clearly i'm bad at making judgements (if you have ever read my past posts).

 

I guess my question is, should I give him another chance? I don't want to constantly worry about what he is doing when he is out, I know I have to trust him completely and believe he has changed, otherwise Ill just be the naggy insecure girlfriend who worries all the time.

 

Am I walking myself into more embarrassment? Or can a man really change? Should I trust him to try again?

 

P.S He hasn't tried to convince me he has changed. None of that "im different ive changed" nonsense. He has simply been calling me more often and asking me out on dates, if we can hang out or see a movie. Also, from what I hear, no one sees him out anymore. I guess since i've been going to the same spots again, he has been coming out more to hopefully run into me, but for the last 6 months he was spotted maybe twice or 3 times.

[country_gurl]

What ages are you both?

 

How did he react when you were previously together and you were explaining to him that his behavior was disrespectful to you; did he acknowledge that at all?

 

I personally would be leary of someone who has previously disrespected me with that kind of behavior. I'm not sure I'd ever be able to really 'trust' someone like that again nor would I want to go out on a limb and take the chance. I suppose you could just reestablish a friendship and take things one day at a time and let his actions give you the answer?

[FrustratedStandards]

He told me that he wasn't doing anything wrong, just that he was "dancing" and having fun. Once, I did the same thing.

 

He was furious. I told him that if he can do it, then I can do it. And if I should accept it, then he isn't allowed to give me crap for it. That just led to more problems so I broke it off.

 

I guess you're right. I should see day by day where this goes. We are back in touch now and so far so good. If it leads elsewhere, then it leads elsewhere. If not then it wasn't meant to be I guess. I'll go with the flow.