2good4hm Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I want to keep this short, but like any event there just seems so much to say....My SO doesn't know why I broke up with him...He has called his friends, my friends and family. I think it was pretty clear, but you decide. I have been seeing this person for a year. During that time my SO has had a major surgery with complications that I helped him through. When he recovered I took him on a suprise birthday trip to Key West for the weekend. I paid for the trip, room, sunset cruise etc. I also encouraged his relationship with his 2 oldest daughters and helped bridge the gap that almost a decade had built. My birthday came several months later and my SO told me he was sorry he couldn't do anything for my birthday because he had his son that week and that he would make it up to me. I will admit, it stung because he knew he was going to have his child for a month before he had him (he just failed to plan ahead). My SO even at one point told me to make dinner reservations myself for my birthday dinner. When I refused, he did make reservations at a place I picked (no suprises). Before the dinner, I went over to his house and he had a nice box wrapped. Inside was a suitcase. I said thanks and he asked me, aren't you going to open the suitcase?? So, I opened the suitcase and inside was a card. My first thought was, wow, he really did mean what he said about making it up to me. I opened the card and it was a hot dog and inside the card it said "This weiner is for you" and he wrote, don't worry you can have the real one later.... At the end of dinner, my SO says to my sister and my friends, "Let's play a game. Let's talk about our EX and proceeds to show a picture of his Ex Wife on his phone. (This isn't the 1st time he has done that to me. Once I took him to a business dinner with my associates and he spent 2 hrs talking about his ex wife over a $600 dinner that I paid for). 4 days later while I am visiting my mother and taking her to the hospital, I get a call from my SO. He asks me if it was going to bother me if he had his ex brother in law and his wife stay at his house for a few days because they are coming from Columbia to go on a cruise and can't afford a hotel. At first I thought, well, that would be OK. But as the conversation went on, it was his EX Wife's sister and her husband that were coming. His EX Wife remarried a multi-millionaire and they live about 10 mins from the cruise ship port. Why couldn't they put them up or pay for a hotel. So, I told my SO, I didn't feel comfortable with that arrangement since I stay at his house 90% of the time. He told me that was too bad. After all it was his decision. So, I finally had to say goodbye. What do you think? I explained to him why I couldn't continue on, but I don't think he gets it. He keeps telling everyone that I didn't like his relationship with his children. Makes me look really bad.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Ouch.. Sounds to me like you did the right thing. Let him talk his crap because he is butt hurt that he isn't good enough for you. My ex tried to make me look like the bad guy to all of "my friends" and his family aswell but yet he left me.. He told them I didn't let him see his son because he was dating this chick he left me for. But he failed to mention that he is out partying, doing drugs, lies to me about everything,stole money from me and left me in debt while paying nothing for his son. Its ok though those friends are no longer my friends. I never once tried to convince them otherwise.. I am satisfied knowing I did the right thing for me and my son. So don't let it make you feel bad it sucks when others are thinking badly of you especially when its not the truth. Be thankful you got out!!
Eddie Edirol Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Did you really tell him the exact reasons you broke up with him is because of: 1.) not planning for your birthday 2.) the weiner card 3.) having his ex wifes picture in his phone 4.) talking about his ex wife at a dinner you paid for 5.) not keeping his ex in laws away from the house after Columbia when you said it didnt make you comfortable And after all these reasons you told him, he ignored all that?
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