Buttercup84 Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I listed to my voicemail yesterday and then agent that looked after us when we lived together left a message for my ex . I couldn't believe it , first of all it is my number , and they already know that I moved out. So I emailed my d Ex to tell him that they called him and would he please tell them not to call me .normally he would reply to an email about business matters pretty fast . And he checks his email right after he gets home . Bit he did not reply at all .when we first went out he never went on his computer when I was over . Now I think that he must have a girl over I am acting so paranoid .
Author Buttercup84 Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Sorry for all the typos ! Damn iPhone .
geegirl Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 (edited) I listed to my voicemail yesterday and then agent that looked after us when we lived together left a message for my ex . I couldn't believe it , first of all it is my number , and they already know that I moved out. So I emailed my d Ex to tell him that they called him and would he please tell them not to call me .normally he would reply to an email about business matters pretty fast . And he checks his email right after he gets home . Bit he did not reply at all .when we first went out he never went on his computer when I was over . Now I think that he must have a girl over I am acting so paranoid . Everytime you break contact, especially when you are still so raw, it is going to be detrimental to you. You should have called the agent to tell him to please remove your contact information. But you decided to contact your ex for no other reason but to ease your discomfort and try to see if you could test the waters and get some reaction under the guise of being irritated that the agent was calling you. Touch the hot pot and you are going to get burned, everytime. The discomfort or more so pain of dealing with the break up is already hard enough to manage, and now you start adding by trying to peek into his life which is causing you paranoia, which will completely eat away at you. Stop adding to the hurt and pain. Edited September 8, 2011 by geegirl
Author Buttercup84 Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Everytime you break contact, especially when you are still so raw, it is going to be detrimental to you. You should have called the agent to tell him to please remove your contact information. But you decided to contact your ex for no other reason but to ease your discomfort and try to see if you could test the waters and get some reaction under the guise of being irritated that the agent was calling you. Touch the hot pot and you are going to get burned, everytime. The discomfort or more so pain of dealing with the break up is already hard enough to manage, and now you start adding by trying to peek into his life which is causing you paranoia, which will completely eat away at you. Stop adding to the hurt and pain. Thanks geegirl . I know it was stupid of me
geegirl Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Thanks geegirl . I know it was stupid of me You are not stupid. It's your emotions taking over. Next time you feel the need to react, stop and take a step back. Think about repercussions. Think about how it is going to affect you. Think about the pain you will feel. Think about what a response, of any type will do to you. Don't panic and rush into the the first thought that comes to your mind because it's your heart that's thinking and you cannot trust it. Everytime you feel that discomfort and pain and the need to reach out to him, and remember he is your source of pain and cannot comfort you the way you want him to -- stop, step back and rationalize. Reacting will keep you repeating the same mistakes and that only keeps you in pain.
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