A7X Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 What at your thoughts? Just happened to me and I think it's brutal and coward way to go. I mean after one year, you would think I would deserve better then a text while at work saying; it's not going to work and I think we should see other ppl.. Needless to say being at work only reminds me of this.
Mack05 Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 A7X I couldnt agree more. People like your ex lack class and decency. Read my thread on cowards -> http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t281186/.
peterstreet Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 My ex did exactly the same thing just 2 weeks ago after a year together. Finished me by text AND the best bit was the night before i'd treated her to a meal out, she stayed round mine and we slept together all without any problems. Life's good eh?
Misar7 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Yep same thing happened to me!! Told me about another woman and all via text!! I was with him for 8 flippin years!!!!!!!!
ScienceGal Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I got broken up with in an email So sorry. There is no justification for it. And, unfortunately, you may never get an explanation either. It's about them and them taking the cowards way out. It, in no way, has anything to do with you. What you need to do right now is NOTHING. Don't write back or call and definitely don't beg. This is going to be hard, but you deserve better. And if you've already done some of these things, that's ok, just don't do it anymore. You're going to go through a lot of emotions, and that is perfectly normal. Cutting off all contact is the best option for you. Keep posting. You'll get through it.
M2155 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Ditto for me. Exed by text! I know there is no easy way to do it but it's sooooo cowardly. I guess they go through the motions cause they thought about it, but couldn't do it face-to-face. I think they're selfish and do not respect us or themselves enough to confront their decision.
RodG Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Hey, mine did the same thing. Three years gone, by text. Couldn't even call me. You know what she said 'that'd just make things unnecessarily more difficult'. Hey, you've got no idea how difficult it was being broken up with over text...
Feelin Frisky Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Did this come out of nowhere where you had no inkling? It's a douchey thing to do regardless but I was just curious about the whole truth. Anyway, sending a text about anything pivotal in ending a relationship is a pathetic cop out. Sorry you had to suffer this.
crackster Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I got the same text after 2 and half years. just saying cant do this no more i dont love you any more! she would no call or i did not even get any more texts and its been 2 weeks! i think its ****ing terrible!
LelouchIsZero Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Yes, it is indeed a very "brutal and coward way to go". I'm sorry that you have to go through this, as really no-one deserves something like that. Mine was via phone call, 3 days after my brothers death.
fiat500 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I was broken up with via facebook messenger. Just take pleasure in the fact that these cowards will come to deeply regret how they handled things much later in their life.
silly_panda Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Mine... she sent me an email... After reading that I called her, she don't even wanna pick it up... Tells me to say out the things I wanna say in msn...
Author A7X Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 Did this come out of nowhere where you had no inkling? It's a douchey thing to do regardless but I was just curious about the whole truth. Anyway, sending a text about anything pivotal in ending a relationship is a pathetic cop out. Sorry you had to suffer this. We had been trying to work things out for about 1 month. I had asked her to do something together on the weekend and it was a surprise and she accepted. I wanted to take her back to the fair we went to on our first date. She called me Thursday morning at work all excited asking what the plan was for the weekend, saying she couldn't wait. I texted her a bit later saying I couldn't wait to see her and got the same from her. Then a few hours later I got the text ending it all. I freaked out, left work, contacted her for about 5 days saying I don't understand how she could have a drastic change of heart. Never got an answer, been NC for 3 days.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 We had been trying to work things out for about 1 month. I had asked her to do something together on the weekend and it was a surprise and she accepted. I wanted to take her back to the fair we went to on our first date. She called me Thursday morning at work all excited asking what the plan was for the weekend, saying she couldn't wait. I texted her a bit later saying I couldn't wait to see her and got the same from her. Then a few hours later I got the text ending it all. I freaked out, left work, contacted her for about 5 days saying I don't understand how she could have a drastic change of heart. Never got an answer, been NC for 3 days. I kinda know how that feels right this very now about going from great guns to zero in a few hours and trying to figure out wtf. I'm glad we could share. Keep your head up.
ConfusedT Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 worst way. selfish, immature, doesn't care enough. didnt recognize your worth. a million reasons why... but the biggest is you just werent important enough for a real face to face convo. sucks, thats how mine ended too. =(
Mack05 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 worst way. selfish, immature, doesn't care enough. didnt recognize your worth. a million reasons why... but the biggest is you just werent important enough for a real face to face convo. sucks, thats how mine ended too. =( It's a soul destroying way to get dumped. I got dumped by phonecall (one hour before starting therapy). Previous weekends I had taken care of her when she was sick (cooked, cleaned, did all the little things for her). Won her nearly $1000 and gave it all to her. I bought her black market tickets for her favourite band which cost a small fortune and didn't mention how much they cost, when she was too sick to go. I was an emotional support and friend to her when a friend of her's mother died and another friend had a health scare. Apparently none of this was worth a good bye to my face. I took it very hard. I accepted the relationship was over, but I justed wanted to say my piece and get closure. I send her texts/emails begging to meet up face to face. Instead she called the police. We just need to accept that there are people out there that are not decent. They don't think like we do. It's harsh and it leaves a big scar but you will eventually move on..I saw her recently and the immense anger that I felt towards her had gone. Best forgive her mate and let go off the resentment.
ConfusedT Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 It's a soul destroying way to get dumped. I got dumped by phonecall (one hour before starting therapy). Previous weekends I had taken care of her when she was sick (cooked, cleaned, did all the little things for her). Won her nearly $1000 and gave it all to her. I bought her black market tickets for her favourite band which cost a small fortune and didn't mention how much they cost, when she was too sick to go. I was an emotional support and friend to her when a friend of her's mother died and another friend had a health scare. Apparently none of this was worth a good bye to my face. I took it very hard. I accepted the relationship was over, but I justed wanted to say my piece and get closure. I send her texts/emails begging to meet up face to face. Instead she called the police. We just need to accept that there are people out there that are not decent. They don't think like we do. It's harsh and it leaves a big scar but you will eventually move on..I saw her recently and the immense anger that I felt towards her had gone. Best forgive her mate and let go off the resentment. you did so much for so little. you are a great person and one day you are going to meet someone who will actually appreciate you for who you are! dont lose hope! some people are truly not worth our time!!!
Sugarkane Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I can totally relate after one year my ex also dumped me via text. Didn't even get a conversation. He completely insulted me and ironically said I can't communicate. What a hypocrite? Then I see him 2 weeks later and he's already with his next victim. I wanted to barf. These people only care about themselves and have no conscience at all. One year later and I still haven't even had a converstaion with the ex. Needless to say I don't wish this prick well at all. I wish these cruel people would do everyone a favour and all get hit by a bus or something. One less Ahole in the world. If anything bad would happen to my ex, I'd think justice would be served.
Sugarkane Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 When he cruelly dumped me I said I hope the same thing happens to you one day. I can only hope. I'd also suggest getting checked for stds. You can't trust these people. It seems the people closest to you, are the ones that screw you over?
Dark Phoenix Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Text, fb, email = coward's way out. Phone call = coward's way out as well. I asked my ex out face to face, I would have expected that she would have had the same decency while ending the relationship. Shame on me for holding my expectations to high for that girl.... shame on her for not taking the mature way out.
fiat500 Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 with today's technology it's just much easier for people to conveniently dump someone over text without ever having to face the pain they've caused the other person. there's no ramifications and being able to skip on seeing hurt feelings due to you means you never have to feel guilty or learn how to act like a real person. you can take your ex's dignity away with just a sentence or two while leaving your own in tact. walk away from relationship after relationship as you please. sign up today.
Sugarkane Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I think they should be made to face us. I hope someone dumps my ex by text, the SOB deserves it.
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