JustTired Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I have spent years being basically unhappy with my marriage, but I have struggled with what to do about it. It took me two years to finally man up and seek advice, but yesterday I met with a therapist, it took her all of 1 session to make things clear in my mind. I am meeting with the therapist next week again, she wants me to bring a plan of what I want to do and how I want to proceed so that we can discuss it. Its amazing how I have struggled with an impossible choice for years and to have it laid bare so quickly when I finally took the first actual step of seeking help. Oh, and my first appointment was on my 30'th birthday, I didn't plan it that way, it just happened, can I count it as a birthday present? It was the best one I got this year!
GorillaTheater Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I guess we had a bit of a site crash around here ... Anyways, I read your two other posts to get the back story, and it seems pretty clear to me after hearing at least your side of it that you're probably making the right choice. Your wife sounds very damaged, and doesn't seem particularly interested in finding help. Life's short. Too short to put up with what you've been putting up with. Best of luck, and keep us filled in as to your progress. There may be ways we can help.
Author JustTired Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 One of the things the therapist said after I explained my situation (and she asked me a bunch of questions) was "You have been thinking about this in your head for a very long time, you need to stop thinking and actually do something". I don't like decisions where there is no right answer, I spend my days at work every day fixing impossible problems and I am quite good at them, but in my relationship, I just can't come up with the perfect fix because there isn't one. But as my therapist said, its time to do something, and for both my sake and my wife's, neither of us are getting younger, and why should I waste more time on a relationship that is not healthy.
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