Karala Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 ...and weirdly enough, it makes me feel good to think that my ex is probably oblivious about it, because he was bad with birthdays like that, and now that we're NC, and I'm off Facebook, and he probably doesn't even know which day it is today because he usually never knows what day it is, the thought that today is my birthday probably won't even cross his mind. I guess it makes me feel good that I don't have a boyfriend anymore who's living in his own little spaced out world and who needed to be given instructions about how to behave to be a good boyfriend. I'm single now and have been for 6 months, but hopefully someday I'll find someone who treats me like a queen like I deserve, lol. When it was his birthday, 2 weeks after I'd started NC, I agonized about it being the first birthday he would spend without me, about sending a card or not sending a card, wouldn't he feel too sad about not hearing from me at all, etc. Because I'm a caring person and I feel concerned like that, lol (ok, I probably over-analyse stuff a little and maybe need to feel less concerned, but whatever). He? He probably didn't even have a passing thought about it. Seriously, screw him. I also feel good that I'm not missing him or wishing he would be here, because I know he would be a disappointment as always. The only one time he ever gave me a really great birthday gift is last year, I turned 30 and he raised up money from all of our friends and family to buy me a piano. Cool, huh? Except I never got the money until a month ago, when my parents had to write him an e-mail asking him to please settle the matter. NOT that he intented to scam me (he has lots of money anyway), he just never got around to it, cause like I said, he's in his own little spaced out world (and he also seriously needs to cut down on his pot consumption -_-) I'm still waay too concerned about him, I know. But I'm still happy that I don't feel bad about spending my birthday without him. That's something I wouldn't have bet on a few months ago. Happy birthday to me!
melenkurion Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Happy birthday It's mine tomorrow. At least this year, like you, I won't be disappointed by the lack of care. I'm a bit wobbly. I had actually expected to be OK (it's my birthday after all, not his). I've taken it harder than I thought. I suppose there are a lot of memories of past birthdays spent with him: good, bad, indifferent.
Author Karala Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Erm, WTF, did someone just hijack my account? Because the thread title as I originally wrote it was "Today is my birthday...". Now the first sentence doesn't make any fricking sense. o_O
Jdw_Icequeen Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 LMAO about ur oopsy title.. HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Keep on keeping on!
Ajax Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Happy Birthday Karala! Maybe Loveshack is experiencing a security breech. I couldn't get on at all when I tried this morning.
radiodarcy Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 happy belated Karala! and happy birthday to Melenkurion my ex was the same way in being bad with dates -- he forgot my birthday last year and this year. however, if i forgot his birthday he'd be sure to notice and make a comment about it now that i think about it -- i was making excuses for him about forgetting important days. because while he could never seem to remember any of mine. he *always* remembered other friends birthdays, anniversaries, job promotions, etc. but mine seemed to mysteriously slip his mind. this is the same man who told me he wanted to stay friends when he dumped me but could never be bothered to extend me the same courtesy he did with his other friends. needless to say when his birthday rolled around in july i conveniently "forgot" - - although i did buy gifts - - for ME
CarrieT Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Erm, WTF, did someone just hijack my account? Because the thread title as I originally wrote it was "Today is my birthday...". Now the first sentence doesn't make any fricking sense. o_O And there is a whole separate thread that says Yesterday Was My Birthday...
lucacoleman Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Don't worry much about your ex not remembering your special day. I know it hurts but it's for the better. It's time to move one and find someone that makes you feel special even if it's not your special day.
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