liminal Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Sorry if this is a vague question. Its a hard subject for me to understand. What does "not serious" mean when it comes to relationships and dating? As far as I can gather it can possibly maybe mean that 1. The person is into fun dating and possibly some sex but not with any exclusive partner. OR 2. it mean having an exclusive partner but not developing strong feelings for them. Let me give you some more context. I was trying to talk to some girls at a club and not being very lucky. A friend of mine said that those girls weren't looking for anything "serious". Another said that they were looking for something "fun and uncommitted" So what does a "fun and uncommitted" mean? Does that mean dating multiple people with a little bit of sex here of there or does that mean looking for an exclusive partner but not for the long term? I guess it can mean both. Or it can mean something else I haven't thought of. Could somebody with more experience and knowledge about these things can give me a feel for this? Thank you. BTW: Until very recently I thought pretty much everyone (or at least women) wanted a meaningful loving relationship.
madjac74 Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 It just simply means they are just looking for fun. Going out on dates and possibly sex but not an exclusive committed relationship. They want to be free to see multiple people. And no not all people are looking for a serious long term relationship
Author liminal Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 It just simply means they are just looking for fun. Going out on dates and possibly sex but not an exclusive committed relationship. They want to be free to see multiple people. And no not all people are looking for a serious long term relationship Thanks and that was one of the points I was trying to parse. I wandered if "exclusive" tended to also mean "committed" and "serious". I don't personally think that "committed" means "exclusive" because I think that "committed" implies something long term and "exclusive" just means don't have sex with anybody else. So do you think that people who are into dating for fun think that "exclusive" means "serious" and "committed" or do people think along the same lines that I do?
madjac74 Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I don't personally think that "committed" means "exclusive" because I think that "committed" implies something long term and "exclusive" just means don't have sex with anybody else. I believe that "committed" and "exclusive" basically go hand in hand. I think you are right with what you said above but if you are committed to someone wouldn't you also just naturally be exclusive? So do you think that people who are into dating for fun think that "exclusive" means "serious" and "committed" or do people think along the same lines that I do? I think these words are somewhat inconscequential anyway. Someone can say they are in an exclusive relationship and then go out and bang the UPS man. People will do what they want regardless of "committed", "serious" or "exclusive"
Author liminal Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Thanks. I guess in certain contexts though when people say "guys are afraid of commitment" they mean that guys aren't willing to step up to the plate and make a long term commitment as opposed to they are afraid of not being able to date other people for a period of time before before the relationship fizzles. Am I right?
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