somedude81 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Hey Titania22, it's good that you are really taking charge. One thing I'm curious about, how old are the guys you are planning on asking out? From what I understand, you're trying to meet guys at your college.
Author Titania22 Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 As a guy, I have to say what you're doing is great. It doesn't happen often, but when a woman approaches me, I love it! I would refrain from asking out your TA though. There are rules against that kind of thing at most universities. Yeah I had been wondering about that. I kind of figured since step 1 is getting over the fear of asking guys out, rather then working out how to get them to say yes, that any practice would probably be good. And at least then I would find out if all that smiling and friendliness, was just who he is, or if he was interested.
Author Titania22 Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 Hey Titania22, it's good that you are really taking charge. One thing I'm curious about, how old are the guys you are planning on asking out? From what I understand, you're trying to meet guys at your college. I have been trying to step away from being fixated of attracting a specific age group. Now that I am back at uni, many of the students are actually looking way too young for me now (wow I must actually be growing up), whereas the grad students look just right. Still when I look at older guys (like with grey hair), it just turns me off. I can't seem to be desperate enough to even entertain the idea of a man that age. Basically when it comes to asking out strangers, I am focusing on not thinking about it/them too much and just doing it. If I do think about it, I will be stuck in the thought pattern or "of course they wouldn't be interested in me" and then I wouldn't ask anyone out at all.
somedude81 Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I have been trying to step away from being fixated of attracting a specific age group. Now that I am back at uni, many of the students are actually looking way too young for me now (wow I must actually be growing up), whereas the grad students look just right. Still when I look at older guys (like with grey hair), it just turns me off. I can't seem to be desperate enough to even entertain the idea of a man that age. Basically when it comes to asking out strangers, I am focusing on not thinking about it/them too much and just doing it. If I do think about it, I will be stuck in the thought pattern or "of course they wouldn't be interested in me" and then I wouldn't ask anyone out at all. OK, so you're focusing more on the grad-students. I kept getting the image of near 40's woman hitting on 19 year old kids. I'm not saying you can't do it but... I can understand you not wanting the older guys. They don't have the looks or energy that other men have.
Author Titania22 Posted September 15, 2011 Author Posted September 15, 2011 Hi Guys, I am a big chicken. *mook mook* I didn't ask anyone out today. I saw 1 guy sitting by himself on a bench and could have approached him, but instead I chickened out. I stood in line behind 2 of the most beautiful guys I have ever seen, and neither one even glanced in my direction. I saw alot of guys smoking (no thanks). And a couple of guys that would have been approachable but weren't alone. I saw one guy at the traffic light who had to be in his 30's, not much to look at and terrible dress sense, and he didn't even make eye contact with me (I was virtually staring at him (sizing up if I could really go there)). It's interesting to me that when I am really challenged to do something (like talk to random guys i don't know), my mind tries to convince me I don't really want what I thought I wanted (a boyfriend). And I have to remind myself that I may not want a boyfriend now, but I will really appreciate the effort the next time I get horny (if I actually have a boyfriend to have sex with then). I have to overcome my reluctance and fear.
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