Miss_G Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I've been seeing a guy for about 2 months. We met about 6 months ago through mutual friends. I knew he had a girlfriend at the time so nothing happened between us. However, things in his relationship deteriorated and we ended up chatting. I knew he quite liked me as this had been leaked back to me via friends. Nothing happened between us whilst he was with his girlfriend. We discussed liking each other but more than anything we just remained friends as I told him nothing could happen whilst he was with her. Anyway, 2/3 weeks ago I found out that he had ended things with his girlfriend, again through mutual friends. I didn't contact him because I thought he would need space. He, however, contacted me a few days later and we arranged to meet up for a drink. Since then we have been 'seeing' each other or dating, whatever you want to call it. Nothing intimate has happened between us but the signs are there that it probably will happen soon! My problem is is that I'm not one to 'sleep about' and I want some form of commitment before I do that. He has said he doesn't want a relationship straight away after his last one which I can fully understand. He says he doesn't want it to look like he's jumped from one to the next. I hoped that this meant that he may want a relationship with me in the future. We behave very much like a couple. We text constantly, we go out together, we're very relaxed. We are even attending a friend's wedding together next month! Do I need to chill out and just let things 'happen' or should I confront him and discuss 'us'? It has only been a few weeks since his split. I would just like him to say "yes, I don't want to have an official relationship but I'm only seeing you and one day, when time has passed, we will be together". I would be satisfied with that. Am I wasting my time???
KathyM Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I've been seeing a guy for about 2 months. We met about 6 months ago through mutual friends. I knew he had a girlfriend at the time so nothing happened between us. However, things in his relationship deteriorated and we ended up chatting. I knew he quite liked me as this had been leaked back to me via friends. Nothing happened between us whilst he was with his girlfriend. We discussed liking each other but more than anything we just remained friends as I told him nothing could happen whilst he was with her. Anyway, 2/3 weeks ago I found out that he had ended things with his girlfriend, again through mutual friends. I didn't contact him because I thought he would need space. He, however, contacted me a few days later and we arranged to meet up for a drink. Since then we have been 'seeing' each other or dating, whatever you want to call it. Nothing intimate has happened between us but the signs are there that it probably will happen soon! My problem is is that I'm not one to 'sleep about' and I want some form of commitment before I do that. He has said he doesn't want a relationship straight away after his last one which I can fully understand. He says he doesn't want it to look like he's jumped from one to the next. I hoped that this meant that he may want a relationship with me in the future. We behave very much like a couple. We text constantly, we go out together, we're very relaxed. We are even attending a friend's wedding together next month! Do I need to chill out and just let things 'happen' or should I confront him and discuss 'us'? It has only been a few weeks since his split. I would just like him to say "yes, I don't want to have an official relationship but I'm only seeing you and one day, when time has passed, we will be together". I would be satisfied with that. Am I wasting my time??? I don't think you're wasting your time. He's just taking it slow, since he recently broke up with his previous gf. Don't rush him. Just let it progress on its own, and don't confront him or expect the relationship to be defined at this point.
coolheadal Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I agree give him the time he needs. I like how you think though with the sleep part get that out of the picture.
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