AHardDaysNight Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 This is something that confuses me endlessly. What is this magical thing called game, and why do some guys have it and some don't? Discuss.
Pyro Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Knowing how to listen and how to respond correctly to someone of the opposite sex is what many refer to 'game' as. 'Game' to me is a word that the immature crowd uses.
BeyondtheClouds Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Game when used as positive term means that you have good social skills. You say hello to people, especially when they've done so first. You're good at small talk. You're able to make people feel good about themselves with well placed remark. You also have good transition skills. You don't linger around appearing creepy but at the same time, you don't come across as abrupt.....and so on.
coolheadal Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 It's like walk and walk and talk is the game (the act or how you get what you want done) Goes by other meanings too. Most guys don't have their game on right. Can't ask the girl out or just too shy. Some guys have their game and can get that date with that girl and are not shy about making that move on her (game).
liminal Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 My guess is that "game" is a term that is used in the context of "casual dating". Casual dating is when people date without an interest in forming a long term relationship. A lot of women will have sex in the context of casual dating. The kind of guys who are successful at having lots of sex with girls who like to casually date are said to have "game." That's just my opinion. Sometimes it just means a "player" who is good at lying to girls in order to get into their pants.
rafallus Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Game - ability to consistently attract potential partners and keep them attracted.
phineas Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 what most people said, "game" is the ability to pull women. It was a term we used seriously in our 20's but now as my friends & I are pushing 40 & some beyond it's just a running joke we use
PratyekaYana Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 This is something that confuses me endlessly. What is this magical thing called game, and why do some guys have it and some don't? Discuss. "Game" is simply a colloquialism for a specific kind of charisma. It's the ability to inspire in the opposite sex feelings of attraction through the controlled application of speech, body language, attire, and other factors. At its worst, it's subtle manipulation, but at a more ethical level it's just the influence that comes with a self-assured mastery of that area of one's life.
Author AHardDaysNight Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 What if you've never had the ability to pull women? That is my problem. I am told I have no game, and I agree. I want to fix this. How do I fix that?
Almond_Joy Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 (edited) HardDaysNight, I'm a girl, but I started doing research on this, to get an idea of what I'm up against when trying to weed out the kind of guy I want. I came across a player's blog - ==www.rooshv.com==. I'm a strange mix of appalled and pleased at how brutally honest this guy is. He's written several books on his sexual escapades, as well as a manual of sorts on how to build your game as a man. The manual, in particular, is called Bang. It's avaialble for purchase on Amazon. I'm really enjoying the reading so far. He's a strong, straightforward writer, and all the guys that have reviewed the book or comment on his blog posts just rave about what his advice is doing for their game. On another note, though....some of his blogs are really depressing. He talks about how apathetic he's become as a result of all the meaningless sex. There's definitely a dark side to being a player and he did not spare the rod on this aspect. But to each their own, I guess..... I'm not wishing you good luck if you're trying to be a player lol, but if you're just looking for info on how to get better at approaching women this may be a good start. Edited September 8, 2011 by Almond_Joy
Author AHardDaysNight Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 Spike had game; Xander did not. yw Fair enough. If I have to dye my hair blond, wear sleeveless t shirts, and go around sucking people's blood... Well, I'd rather be single!
EasyHeart Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 But remember, Xander did pretty well for himself: Willow, Cordelia, Anya, plus miscellaneous mummies, demons, teachers and giant insects. He just didn't have "game". Actually, the guy with the best "game" was Parker. (He also got his ass kicked. . . .)
Author AHardDaysNight Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 Yeah, lol. I remember that giant insect woman. Yeah, I think I'll pass on that one... But I've always been the loveable nerd. So I suppose I am more like Xander than Spike, or Parker. Parker had that whole "jock thing" going on. So did Angel (and also the bad boy brooding bit.) I probably would never date a Buffy, but a Willow? Definitely the type of woman I'm looking for.
Eddie Edirol Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 What if you've never had the ability to pull women? That is my problem. I am told I have no game, and I agree. I want to fix this. How do I fix that? All you have to do is google "how to attract the females", and you will come up with all kinds of answers. There are methods that encourage meaningless sex, but you dont have to go that route. What you want is to understand is how to avoid turning women off by saying and doing stupid things, and learning the right things to say, by learning the psychology.
counterman Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I never really did like the word "game". But guess it refers what others have suggested, good people skills, particularly with the opposite sex. I don't know if I have it or not but I am comfortable approaching girls and striking up conversation, only when they're by themselves. In a group situation, I'm not so sure. Have only tried it a few times... back in high school:p I guess if I fully embraced it and hung out with the "right" people, I could become a player but don't really want to go down that path...
Author AHardDaysNight Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 I guess I just need to work on my social skills.
rafallus Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I never really did like the word "game". But guess it refers what others have suggested, good people skills, particularly with the opposite sex.Yes, word itself seems to have some juvenile connotations. Hell, if I imagine someone telling "This dude's got game", I imagine some ghetto gangsters rather than gentlemen in tuxedos. But ability to attract is fairly universally welcome thing.
GivenUp0083 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 This is something that confuses me endlessly. What is this magical thing called game, and why do some guys have it and some don't? Discuss. The ability to confuse drunk and/or stupid women (most women) into sleeping with you through the acts of being cocky, arrogant, disrespectful, and aloof. Basically you have to be able to look down upon a woman in order to have "game" with her. You must recognize the discrepancies between what women say they want, and what will actually get them in bed. Being a jerk to them is often a successful approach, then after a night of alcohol and disrespect, you can basically grab them by the hand, take them out of the bar, and head back to your place in a cab. The key to this is to establish a mindset of DGAF (Don't Give A Fck). If you don't care about this so much and you get it in your head you can have any woman and portray that to her, she'll sleep with you simply based on the principle that you are in demand, your disrespect is interpreted as masculinity, and this causes her to be attracted to you. Women are going to tell you that I'm wrong and that only "slutty" or "stupid" women fall for this....they're all stupid. Try it, practice it, you'll see how easy it really is and how full of sht most women are when it comes to "I want a man who...." and then you're banging their brains out later that night after teasing them about their dress or hairstyle.
Emilia Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 The ability to confuse drunk and/or stupid women (most women) into sleeping with you through the acts of being cocky, arrogant, disrespectful, and aloof. Basically you have to be able to look down upon a woman in order to have "game" with her. You must recognize the discrepancies between what women say they want, and what will actually get them in bed. Being a jerk to them is often a successful approach, then after a night of alcohol and disrespect, you can basically grab them by the hand, take them out of the bar, and head back to your place in a cab. The key to this is to establish a mindset of DGAF (Don't Give A Fck). If you don't care about this so much and you get it in your head you can have any woman and portray that to her, she'll sleep with you simply based on the principle that you are in demand, your disrespect is interpreted as masculinity, and this causes her to be attracted to you. Women are going to tell you that I'm wrong and that only "slutty" or "stupid" women fall for this....they're all stupid. Try it, practice it, you'll see how easy it really is and how full of sht most women are when it comes to "I want a man who...." and then you're banging their brains out later that night after teasing them about their dress or hairstyle. Let me guess: you are still single and online dating hasn't been going well?
Author AHardDaysNight Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 Oh geez. I don't see how I can do that. It just is impossible to me to understand that mentality.
counterman Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 (edited) Just expose yourself to as many social events as possible. Any invitations you get, say yes to them. Try to talk to as many people as possible, even groups. Learn to be a conversationalist! I use to be anti-social and use to stick to myself at parties. It wasn't very fun. Wasn't until I got sick of it, that I started to put myself out there and enjoy myself, without caring what others thought. I vaguely remember (or maybe its my imagination) someone pointing out a guy with "game". All I saw was a douchebag. Never did like that word. Also words like "sway" e.g. He's got so much swag. lol. Edited September 9, 2011 by counterman
zengirl Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 (edited) Game, when I say it, is the ability to direct a relationship dynamic, move it forward, and make things happen with someone you want to date/bang/whatever. I've heard other girls use it as a word that basically seems to mean the guy makes her want to sleep with him. Which I guess fits the above, but it's a VERY limited version of it. So, like most words, it depends on who's saying it. I have excellent game. If I see a guy, I know exactly what to do to get things going the direction I want. A girl does not need good game to get laid (a guy maybe does, but it depends on other factors -- how cute he is, the luck of his circumstances, etc). Game has little to do with being laid IME because I also date guys who don't particularly need game to get laid. However, it is helpful in getting things started. For the most part, it's just confidence, good social instincts, and a rough plan to follow. It's only useful for beginning things and people who "run the game" too long usually make poor partners, which is why game can be deceiving and men without game are often great boyfriends. That said, my BF has some game, and it's fine because it's not the main thing he brings to the table. It helps keep a smooth beginning is all. Game generally comes from experience. So, one guy might have game in getting laid casually but not in making relationships work, or vice versa, etc. Fake game (game not learned from experience) sometimes works and there is a fake it till you make it thing at play, but most guys who haven't experienced success don't have game. That's okay. It's not really necessary, and there are better things to work on in the meantime. A general sense of confidence is necessary though. Spike had game; Xander did not. yw But remember, Xander did pretty well for himself: Willow, Cordelia, Anya, plus miscellaneous mummies, demons, teachers and giant insects. He just didn't have "game". Actually, the guy with the best "game" was Parker. (He also got his ass kicked. . . .) Ew, Parker did not have game. Your other example was good, but that's just gross. Xander did DEVELOP more game as time went on. Not a lot, granted, but I think we can safely say that once he recovers from grieving for Anya, Xander has all the game he needs now to land himself a new hottie. Even with the missing eye. Edited September 9, 2011 by zengirl
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