windmask Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Hey everyone new to this site ill write my story let me know how you guys feel? anyhows i met my ex girlfriend 2 years ago she was stuck up when we met however i liked her enough to ask her out. she agreed and everything was wonderful for the first year. However in Sept 2010 she got a job and we were both in school at this time, she wanted the job asked what i thought. i said honestly i think finishing school was probably more important because it required her to take a year off. she didnt like my answer was very pissed and still took the job. anyhows while she was at work she didnt have time for me anymore i understood that though i had school. however she made friends at work and would go out with them all the time and they were always men just some guy. it became regular she would hang with them or some dude she would tell me about it though. then after a few months a i asked her do these friends of urs know that ur in a relationship she answered "no i told them am single" this clearly upset me a lot. we had arguments over this she said they were just friends i said its not right to say that its kinda like inviting people to hit on you or wut not. after this finally ended in jan 2011 she said she didnt feel i liked loved her anymore she said she wanted to break up. this really broke my heart i tried to reason with her big mistake though because it convinced her she was right to break up. the more i tried to fix things the more crazier she got said some terrible things like how am not educated properly, how am in school so i dont have money, how she should have broken up with me sooner, how she didnt know why she even dated me. all this hurt because she was also my best friend before we got together. while she said all those things it upset me greatly in the end the last lie she said was "i dont love you so whats the point of being together" i was like u said u loved for 2 years was that a lie? she answered "i thought i loved you but i dont think i did and am not sure why i said it". i lost it after this... i said am gone then since am not wanted i deleted her off msn and off facebook its been 4 months and no contact with her. however i miss her though i dont know why she was my best friend and my gf. i see her facebook pic and shes always happy with her friends yet i feel so sad. am sorry i wrote a lot. please please give me some feed back. i love to hear peoples different views.
gbadboy Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 It's good you removed her from FB and went NC. But checking out her profile to see her pics while tempting is taking you steps back. I would block her completely so that you can't access the profile. Or get someone to do it for you. Erase her and one day she'll reach a low point and she'll contact you back - its up to you decided what you want to do at that point.
Author windmask Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 hey my first reply lol :lmao: ur so right checking out her profile is taking some steps back i think ur right i should block her. and i dont think she will contact me reason well shes got a very massive ego issue. her attitude is like hmm oh she thinks shes never wrong and if you say shes wrong hmm well ur going to hear her lash out. lol thank you for ur advice gbadboy i should block her. thank again :bunny: anyone else got more suggestions please write them i love to read them.
Nohbody Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 gbadboy, that's good advice! Nothing to add.
stillhurt Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Yes, don't check her on FB. I have also made that mistake many times myself. It's when I check on his new gf's page that I feel the lowest. All those smiles...grrrr. It has set me back more than a few times. Like, how can they be so freaking happy when you are dying inside. So, take it from someone who has been there. Block her! I just started yesterday...let's see who can last longer...lol.
olivec Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 facebook can really suck when your trying to get over someone. however blockin her from facebook is the only way as if you just unfriend still temps you to check your ex's profile. i had to block my ex to as i couldnt deal with seeing any pics of her at all. it leads to setbacks and eventual contacting of your ex. trust me it happend to me a few times so you want to stay nc at all cost .
olivec Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 facebook can really suck when your trying to get over someone. however blockin her from facebook is the only way as if you just unfriend still temps you to check your ex's profile. i had to block my ex to as i couldnt deal with seeing any pics of her at all. it leads to setbacks and eventual contacting of your ex. trust me it happend to me a few times so you want to stay nc at all cost .
gbadboy Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Yup, blocking off facebook is the best route. Actually, I'm one to talk - I haven't blocked my ex (just de-friended them months ago, during our first break up). Instead I have not physically logged into facebook for the past 2 months, since our last break up. I dont even have it in me to go to his page and click "block". So i just dont go on facebook altogether. Weird huh? And ya I said "his" - so I guess the cat is out of the bag.... Facebook can be so dangerous during break ups......I'm avoiding that site for a good long time. I can't can't can't can't even look at my ex's picture - it will be too tough. I had someone go in initially and remove all my FB albums of him in it - couldn't do it myself.
Author windmask Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 thanks for ur advice everyone.:lmao: but besides the facebook when does one finally stop thinking about the ex she was my first real gf? like its been 8 months since we broke up and now 4 months straight and no contact but not a single day has gone by where i havent thought about her. each afternoon i convince myself all the terrible things she said and done i actually read some of them which makes me feel like i should stay away from her. however the next day i wake up shes the first thing that comes to my mind its so messed up. its kinda like being on drugs like u know the drug is bad yet i want it. stupid logic there maybe but thats just what i think.
Author windmask Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 Today (Sept 11,2011) update on how i feel today:( i for some reason feel like a failure a complete failure because i finished school 4 months ago and i dont have a job and lost my best friend who was my gf too. everything that should not have gone wrong has gone wrong. my ex gf was my best friend i could share my life with her however shes gone too i feel all alone. so today i got this stupidest thought i didnt deserve this life because there was so many things wrong with it and everything about my life is bad. i know it sounds like depression your right. but i never felt i dont deserve this life till today.:( i have no one to share how i feel with no more so i thought id post it here and hear what you guys think.
benB Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Today (Sept 11,2011) update on how i feel today:( i for some reason feel like a failure a complete failure because i finished school 4 months ago and i dont have a job and lost my best friend who was my gf too. everything that should not have gone wrong has gone wrong. my ex gf was my best friend i could share my life with her however shes gone too i feel all alone. so today i got this stupidest thought i didnt deserve this life because there was so many things wrong with it and everything about my life is bad. i know it sounds like depression your right. but i never felt i dont deserve this life till today.:( i have no one to share how i feel with no more so i thought id post it here and hear what you guys think. I feel the same way man, my girl was my world, my best friend and the only person I really cared about, and she knows it. She still doesn't care about me. Facebook and Twitter suck because she seems so happy and careless. Its only been about a week or so but we dated for five years and now I just feel alone.
Author windmask Posted September 15, 2011 Author Posted September 15, 2011 i know how u feel man i relate to all that. i just dont get it why do the dumpees have to suffer so much while the dumper seems all happy after the break ups. i mean did they never love us like we loved them life is really strange at times. do urself a favour man and not contact her again i know its hard but what else can you do exactly, u cant force someone to love u or be with you. best of luck and trust me i know how u feel man. take care for now:confused::confused:
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