BrkHeart Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Quick Background: I met this woman last October and we dated until mid February. I truly enjoyed our time together, and really felt like I was just getting to know her. She just pulled away from me without explaining why. Well in February she said she didn’t thing there could be anything between us and I immediately went NC. The NC lasted until June when I started randomly hearing from her. After a few back and forths via phone, I asked to get together with her. We had a real fun 5 hours together. We have a few more back and forths via phone and she asks me to come to a wedding with her, (She is in the wedding). I think it sounds like a great time and I agree. She tells me she wants to go as just friends, and I see no reason to see it as anything else. My first question is, who invites an “ex-boyfriend” they broke it off with to a wedding as a “friend”. Her reason was she didn’t want anyone else at the wedding hitting on her and if she was there with someone, that would prevent that. After a large amount of flirting (always started from her), I tried to make a move on her and get “I don’t want you to chase me because I don’t want to ruin our friendship.” I take that to mean, I feel absolutely nothing for you and just need to stop you right in your traps. The truth is I really wasn’t over her when she first starting getting in touch with me and I thought I could control that, but I really can’t. Any comments on if you agree/disagree with my interpretation of what she said would be appreciated.
2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Tell her it's all or nothing, her game is playing with you but you need to stand up against it and be firm. You have to make it clear she can get all of you or none of you, do you want just friends? if you accept that you will be her whipping boy for ever more, woman love guys to be just friends. lets face ot they in the end have the pick of the bunch mainly cause guys hang around in hope they will change their mind about them.... and maybe just maybe they might settle down with you after numerous other dating encounters - that you'll have to cushion her through btw! I would politely decline the invitation, say you are grateful but your intentions are clear that you do not want just friends and if that is the case with her (she wants just friends) then you will need to move on. Do that and she may just respect you a bit more and see some man in you. 2011
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