joeyanna Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Well I finally texted the bloke I've been in contact with after he asked me to give him a couple of weeks to sort his head out (gave him 2.5 weeks). That was twelve hours ago and have heard nothing so far. He has always been really respectful before and been totally honest so I'm really disappointed that he hasn't even attempted a reply, even if its a thanks but no thanks, would rather that than be ignored!
madjac74 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 That is a very cowardly way for people to act. Even when I went on this horrible date and was practically screeching my tires to get out of there, I still sent her a text apologizing that we just didn't connect.
Eddie Edirol Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Well I finally texted the bloke I've been in contact with after he asked me to give him a couple of weeks to sort his head out (gave him 2.5 weeks). That was twelve hours ago and have heard nothing so far. He has always been really respectful before and been totally honest so I'm really disappointed that he hasn't even attempted a reply, even if its a thanks but no thanks, would rather that than be ignored! have you always told a date that you werent interested in them, or did you ignore them hoping theyd get the hint? You need to assume that hes not interested and keep it moving. If he needed a couple weeks to sort his head out, its woman hint speak for "im not interested."
Author joeyanna Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 That is a very cowardly way for people to act. Even when I went on this horrible date and was practically screeching my tires to get out of there, I still sent her a text apologizing that we just didn't connect. Yeah it is but he's never done it before which is the bit I don't understand. We live and learn though!
Author joeyanna Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 have you always told a date that you werent interested in them, or did you ignore them hoping theyd get the hint? You need to assume that hes not interested and keep it moving. If he needed a couple weeks to sort his head out, its woman hint speak for "im not interested." Then why did he bother telling me to text him after 2 weeks when he could have said don't contact me any more? And in answer to your question, yes I have always told someone when I felt that things weren't going any where!
Pierre Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Then why did he bother telling me to text him after 2 weeks when he could have said don't contact me any more? He was trying to be gentle and was hopeful you would get the message.
Author joeyanna Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 He was trying to be gentle and was hopeful you would get the message. What ever happened to honesty? I give up lol
FitChick Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Sometimes if you are honest, they get very angry. I just give them an impersonal generic 'no thanks' or say I've met someone else and ignore all further messages.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Yeah, but if you are honest, at least the other person knows where you stand. Otherwise, you're kept guessing!
Author joeyanna Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Sometimes if you are honest, they get very angry. I just give them an impersonal generic 'no thanks' or say I've met someone else and ignore all further messages. I would prefer both of those options to being strung along. I wouldn't mind but he originally said 'maybe we should stop contact' to which I replied something like, 'I'l be sad about that, but thats your decision then what can I say' and thats when he immediately replied 'I have a lot going on right now, give it a week or two then text me, or I'll text you to see where we both are'. If they're going to backtrack, they'd better damn well mean it lol. Well I'm done chasing, I have more self respect than that!
Author joeyanna Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Yeah, but if you are honest, at least the other person knows where you stand. Otherwise, you're kept guessing! Totally agree with that, its just cruel to keep someone guessing. What happened to 'manning up'?
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