crackster Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Ok if you dont no me i posted here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=18 just a little catch up am 24 she 20 been 2geta 2 and half years. she broke up on day saying i dont love you any more.. blah blah blah even tho she just paid for a holiday for us and every thing any ways! I really want to do the stupid things like send her love texts , flowers to work! and want to meet her! all the things you should not do! that i have read! but i love this girl! we been through so much 2geta and we spend every min 2geta it just seems the last 2 weeks was bad! and its just push her over but when i think about it she was making the arguments and being distant. any ways i no the NC its the way to help you move on and forget! but i dont want that i dont need her in my life but i would like her to be! i want to make her fall in love with me again! how can i do that with the NC rule! its like am just sitting there and doing nothing to help! am just watching her slip away even more! i no she told me she dont love me but i really deep down she does i read 100 texts from her a week before and things she doing and saying dont add up!! unless she was just trying to make it work like she said! but when we first meet she never loved me! you grow to love some one. and doing nice things like nice walks, trips and flowers! meals love notes everything helps that! i no i should just leave it! but i cant i need to do something to get her to see that she can love me! i look back and i do think i took her for granted abit i wish i did do more of the nice things like dinner dates flowers any thing. but any ways doing the NC which i am doing it just feels like am standing back doing nothing! i dont no i no am talking rubbish am just really hurt and confused ! i just like to win her back but i cant doing the NC! maybe you right , mabey i should wait couple months let things settle then text and say hi hows things fancy a coffee or sumthing but by then she might have some 1 new. she was the one looking for holidays looking to move in to a flat .. always texting me how long i be till i pick her up texting me she loved me always her i just dont get how u can switch it of! she wont text me r any thing i day she was there and the next! for 2 weeks now nothing! just weird! any ways i no theres loads of rubish in there it just help to talk thanks
geegirl Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 You can't force someone to love you if they don't want to. You want to force feed her with flowers and notes, and the fact you identify it as stupid, then you already have your answer. She told you she does not love you. All the flowers and notes in the world won't change that. A change of heart will only come from within and if she's not showing you anything other than that, you have to accept it. Flowers and notes will only send her running faster and further the other way. Retain your dignity and pride and step away.
lymtal1 Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I am sorry this has happened to you. I do feel your pain as does everyone else on here. I got the same thing. The week before she was sleeping on my chest, calling me every minute, talking about the future. The next week she told me "I AM NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU". She told you the same. The bottom line is it doesn't matter what happened last minute, yesterday, last week. When those words are spoken it is a big red flag. Then you top it off with she wants to see other guys because she wants to blah blah blah. You have on love blinders. Take them off. She showed you who she is and when that happens don't try to rationalize it, it's time to move on. I know mine had checked out long before then and yours probably did too. She did not want to hurt me and felt guilty. That is the normal process. You don't want to believe it or hear it. You think there is hope. There is not, don't go down that road. It will drive you crazy and you will spend so much time and energy on something that you at this point can not change. Sorry to put it that way but you are better to deal with the truth now. It will get better but you have to make it happen by getting on the right path to recovery. I wish I were wrong but I don't think I am.
lalalandman Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Dude, don't listen to a word she says. She probably met someone else. Just let her do her thing. Go NC, and don't pick up any of her calls. She just handed you freedom, so take advantage of it.
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