Gypsie Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 (edited) My new boyfriend is away in another state for a week and a bit. When he gets back on the Friday he is hanging out with friends. Going to some Comedy show. (Maybe he got the tickets before knowing he was going to be back that night and knowing about the trip the week before). I ask him if he wants to hang out on Saturday and he tells me he will be to worn out to from the trip and just wants to chill at home but he will give me a ring and stuff. Just thought he would have missed me a bit more and been a bit more keen to see me that is all. Do understand why he does wanna recover from the trip. Just wondering if that is all it is. I have not been good with men in the past and can't help second guessing everything. Most men I meat are *******s. Just don't wanna get disappointed or stuff things up with this guy. Really do like him. Edited September 7, 2011 by Gypsie
madjac74 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Yes you are worrying too much. He could have invited you over to chill out with him on saturday but some people like to just relax alone especially after a week out of town and/or a night out with friends. He probably does miss you but knows that if you guys hung out and he is tired and unattentive that it could hurt your feelings or lead to an arguement which is not great when you just want to relax. Just give him space, keep yourself busy and wait for him to contact you.
Author Gypsie Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Thanks will keep that in mind and do that. .
country_gurl Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 1. how long have you been dating? 2. what ages are you both? 3. what was his reason for being away in another state? I can see why you'd be a little hurt/disappointed/confused. Seems weird he'll have the energy to hang out with the boyz the night he gets back home but the NEXT night, when you've asked him if he wants to hang out and suddenly he just wants to hang out at home and relax from his trip (err, the night before?) Is it common for him to not really seem enthused about making time to spend with you?
Author Gypsie Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 (edited) Country_Gurl We have been going out a month and a half. I am 31 and he is 30. Work reasons for him being in another state. I was invited though to come with him and I did. Could not stay the whole time though because it was very short notice cause I would have had to put in for leave at my job last minute. Just came for the weekend. It was nice to get away but, so that proved he did want to spend time with me in that sense. Maybe that is part of the reason why. The night with he's friends was also pre planned I think, before that trip was. Otherwise he might have went straight home that night. Who knows. You are right though. Did feel a little disappointed about the lack of enthusiasm to see me again straight after the trip. Maybe Madjac is right though. He might just need time to unpack, relax and recharge after before hand. Edited September 8, 2011 by Gypsie
coolheadal Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Just take it easy remember he's working hard and sure you want to go and see him. But then again he's going to be so tired. Then you'll get upset with him if he starts falling asleep with you. This way he can rest up and be with you the next day or etc.
Recommended Posts