AliceInChains86 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Hello all, Im new to this site... And always new to the whole dating scene... I started chatting to this guy from a online dating site, he asked if i would meet up with him so i said yes. We met up and it went really amazingly well, we spoke about meeting again and he kissed me goodbye. Three days later he texted me and we agreed to meet up for lunch on Saturday just gone. Again went really well, we talked and laughed for hours. He spoke about meeting up and things we can do and places to go. Then i dont hear from him again (i never texted him first at all during the whole of this) and he hardly texted me at all. Todays the 4th day and i still hadnt heard from him, So i dropped him a text asking if he wanted to go and check out a few places we spoke about. He texted me a few hours later saying it sounded like fun but he didnt know when as he isnt around for the next few weekends... So i texted and asked if he wanted to do something over the weekday...But not had a reply. Im just a little confused, surely you cant not be around for the next few weekends? Is this a blow out? Thanks
thatone Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 you'll probably never know the answer but... Then i dont hear from him again (i never texted him first at all during the whole of this) and he hardly texted me at all. if it's a simple matter of him dating other people around the same time and choosing the best prospect, look in the mirror, that's who blew it.
Eddie Edirol Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Yep, its a blowoff. Once you ask him out, if it isnt a yes, its a no.
Author AliceInChains86 Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 Oh well Ill keep looking
country_gurl Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 you'll probably never know the answer but... if it's a simple matter of him dating other people around the same time and choosing the best prospect, look in the mirror, that's who blew it. Just curious why you seem to make it a habit of telling people to "look in the mirror" because they're to blame for whatever issue they're posting about. This girl is admittedly new to dating. Telling her that it's all her fault that he didn't respond back is a crock. Just because someone perhaps chooses someone else doesn't mean it's our "fault" - it simply means they found someone they maybe have more of a connection with...or maybe they found someone who was willing to jump into bed immediately. Making a young girl with little dating experience feel like there's something wrong with her is pretty low and uncalled for.
Casablanca Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Just curious why you seem to make it a habit of telling people to "look in the mirror" because they're to blame for whatever issue they're posting about. This girl is admittedly new to dating. Telling her that it's all her fault that he didn't respond back is a crock. Just because someone perhaps chooses someone else doesn't mean it's our "fault" - it simply means they found someone they maybe have more of a connection with...or maybe they found someone who was willing to jump into bed immediately. Making a young girl with little dating experience feel like there's something wrong with her is pretty low and uncalled for. I agree with this...there is very little we can do to screw up our chance with someone, either they are interested or not...as long as you dont say something so off colored or dont hound them with texts and calls, you cant really screw anything up
thatone Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I agree with this...there is very little we can do to screw up our chance with someone, either they are interested or not...as long as you dont say something so off colored or dont hound them with texts and calls, you cant really screw anything up umm, yeah there is actually. are you actually arguing that you can't make good or bad impressions on people? look, it's pretty simple. lets say i've got 3 dates with 3 different women in one given span of time. all else being equal, one calls me as much as i call her, the other two never call or text me, i have to call them. which do you think i'll pick to go on a 2nd date with? i have nothing go by but the assumption that the two who disappear for days at a time aren't interested, whereas the one who calls me as much as i call her has potential.
Author AliceInChains86 Posted September 10, 2011 Author Posted September 10, 2011 umm, yeah there is actually. are you actually arguing that you can't make good or bad impressions on people? look, it's pretty simple. lets say i've got 3 dates with 3 different women in one given span of time. all else being equal, one calls me as much as i call her, the other two never call or text me, i have to call them. which do you think i'll pick to go on a 2nd date with? i have nothing go by but the assumption that the two who disappear for days at a time aren't interested, whereas the one who calls me as much as i call her has potential. Well i went on 2 dates with this guy, and everytime we agreed to meet up he suggested doing something which meant id miss the last train home and the only place i could stay was his... Hense why although i was curious...Im not at all concerned I felt like i made a great first impression and im not going to text/call a guy a lot unless he also is making the effort. Yea we had a great 2 dates, it was fun... But it did always take him days to reply to a text message... So I really do doubt he was as interested in me as he made out to be... And thank you country_gurl
Casablanca Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 umm, yeah there is actually. are you actually arguing that you can't make good or bad impressions on people? look, it's pretty simple. lets say i've got 3 dates with 3 different women in one given span of time. all else being equal, one calls me as much as i call her, the other two never call or text me, i have to call them. which do you think i'll pick to go on a 2nd date with? i have nothing go by but the assumption that the two who disappear for days at a time aren't interested, whereas the one who calls me as much as i call her has potential. Well duh...thats the same as almost calling and contacting too much....I was going more for the, if you show interest without being overbearing and show them who you are, and then they never call back, there is nothing you could have done differently on the last date/phone conversation that would have made them call back instead
phillyfan Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Just curious why you seem to make it a habit of telling people to "look in the mirror" because they're to blame for whatever issue they're posting about. This girl is admittedly new to dating. Telling her that it's all her fault that he didn't respond back is a crock. Just because someone perhaps chooses someone else doesn't mean it's our "fault" - it simply means they found someone they maybe have more of a connection with...or maybe they found someone who was willing to jump into bed immediately. Making a young girl with little dating experience feel like there's something wrong with her is pretty low and uncalled for. Dude 'look in the mirror' aint a nice thing 2 say, u want 2 make the girl feel bad wats up wit that? She aint done nothin bad its all on him.
Author AliceInChains86 Posted September 10, 2011 Author Posted September 10, 2011 Thanks for being supportive guys! Much appricated
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