solong123 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I'm sick of feeling really good, and the next second feeling like complete crap. I can't stop thinking about my ex and I keep myself as busy as possible. Something always just reminds me of him then I get upset all over again. I know my decision was for the best, and we are not even close to being on speaking terms. I am aware that it is over, but I wish I could just move on. He seems fine and dandy not speaking to me. I wish I could feel that way too. How do I go about dealing this? Maybe I really just need help.
smudge21 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 How long has it been if you don't mind me asking? I know what you're going through - I can go a while now without any probs, but then suddenly I'll be back to feeling down. Anything can cause it and sometimes nothing at all. It's whatever I do, she's still in my head! I have things a little differently in that I could quite easily talk to her as we split as friends and there are no bad feelings, I just couldn't be her friend anymore - not what I wanted. So as hard as it is for you not being able to speak to him, it's just as bad the other way round too. Basically, all we can do is ride out this storm and try to realise that it will get better, with time.
jrstar1860 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 You do know sometime's people do change, depending on the situation maybe he's getting to know himself and working on thing's to make himself better...here's a tip from another guy... I don't show that i'm hurting at all. and it drives a girl wild when they don't know if we're hurting or not! don't think we're all heartless because we're not, we have feelings too!
jenjen83 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 You said you know the decision was for the best so try to always remember that. You are doing the right thing in keeping busy. Getting upset is natural and will happen but so will the good days that you have as well. One day the good days will far exceed the bad ones.
Author solong123 Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 It's been about 5 weeks now, which in all honesty really isn't even that long after 1.5 year relationship. But I was so confident with my decision and I wish I could still be like that. I feel like maybe it's not him I miss as much as just having that relationship. He really wasn't good to me.
Author solong123 Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 And to the two guys that replied, I appreciate the input. Especially jstar. I guess I always just assume guys don't care at all but a lot of them just put on that act whether for themselves or for other people.
jrstar1860 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 take the time to think... don't overdo it! i'm in your shoes right now, me and my ex been broke up for like 3-4 months and we were together for 4 years. just take the time to do you and improve on factors to help you out in life, what doesn't kill you definetly makes you stronger... sure it'll hurt but you'll eventually get over it! hope I am helping some.. I keep myself busy alot that's for sure or listen to lots of undepressing music lol
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