rjg96 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 So, maybe a year ago a new woman joined my company and started working on my floor. She's quite attractive and appears to be very social, but I haven't interacted with her much. I can't figure out if she's sort of attracted to me or is creeped out by me. I know it shouldn't matter, and I have NO desire to try dating someone at work (bad past exprerience) but I haven't been feeling that great about myself at work recently and it's starting to bug me. Anyway, here goes -At first, whenever I saw her in the hall she'd give me lots of eye contact a big smile. I'd give her a polite smile back. -Or if she was talking to people as I walked by I'd notice her looking at me -The only interaction I've had is when she's come by my deks to ask if she can borrow a chair or to ask if another coworker is around. That was it; neither of us really introduced ourselves or had a conversation (I just didn't get a warm, friendly vibe from her to even feel comfortable doing that) -Now, when I walk by her in the all she looks quickly to the side and avoids eye contact at all costs -Yet, I still notice her looking at me when she walks by my desk and sometimes when I walk past her if she is talking to other people. I guess it's bugging me because I didn't do anything; I don't "check her out", make creepy conversation, etc. I guess I must have a small crush on her since this is even bugging me. I end up seeing her like 10x per day and It just feels like there's some tension there. It makes me uncomfortable given how stressed I typically am at work. Any thoughts?
dizy Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 I think she has feelings for you, but for a reason or another (not dating coworkers?) she does not want to make advances. (since she is quite sociable, i don't think she doesn't have good enough social skills to introduce herself and become friends with you) and honestly I want advices on this one too, because I have had similar experiences, except the fact that the guy in question looked at me emotionlessly and maintain eye contact for a very long time. It was creepy. and I just avoid his eye contact at the end because it's tiring to always stare at people emotionlessly (yes I did stare back for a very long period of time until I realize that it was absurd) Are you sure that you have not show any kind of creepiness (like the guy i was mentioning) that causes her to react in this way?
Feelin Frisky Posted September 10, 2011 Posted September 10, 2011 Are you friendly with anyone else who might be friendly with her? Possibility of getting someone to play cupid for you?
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