deanieluv6 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I always felt that love and trust go hand in hand. but now I'm not really sure anymore. i've been married to the same man for 4 yrs ,together for almost 6. To make a long story short ,yes he's cheated on me ,and yes I know this to be a fact. I worked with the woman ,who told people at my job . and my husband told someone who it was and went it happened . but he looked me right in the eyes and lied about it . rather than to be a man and own up to it . Thats not all , Ive been told many different storys down through the years. but he lies again. about 3 months ago .He says Im walking down to the store to get him some beer. I didnt think much of it until he was gone an hour,then i started calling his phone and guess what he wouldnt answer it . so from 7pm till around 11pm I am calling his phone ....no answer. by then I was very mad. so I went and sat out in my car so I could see where he came from .guess what he's walking down the street with another woman . so I got out of car and walked right up to them. the **** hit the fan . he said he was at her house drinking beer with her, but wouldnt answer my calls. thats bull. then I found out that she works at his job with him. so when I have picked him up from work ,shes always in his face and he lets it happen . its driving me crazy. i have left him 3 times last summer. but stupid me always seems to come back. hes 41 and im 53 and its scary out there to be alone . but I'm not truly happy . I need help. I dont think he will ever tell me the truth ever.
BeyondtheClouds Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I'm starting to re evaluate the concept of trust and what responsibility each partner has to it. From one end, you can say that you must trust your partner completely. Any follow up, checking in, peaking at their open e-mail account or FB account (which everybody else but possibly you can see) is a breach of trust. Oh dear, trust has gone completely out of the relationship, you better end it right there. And from the other extreme there is, if you have nothing to hide, you have to fear. Therefore, it should not be a problem if your partner sees your e-mails or checks out your FB wall while directly in your account. One thing I do believe is that to choose to spend a lot of time with someone; turning down the opportunity to date others; living with someone; meshing finances and so on is a huge show of trust and both partners should not have a problem leaving open these other accounts. Input from others is very welcomed here.
Woman In Blue Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Sounds to me as if you'll take him on any terms just to have a man in your life. He's a serial cheater and you've continually stayed with him each time he's cheated. That just tells him you'll pretty much put up with anything. He clearly has zero respect for you, but unfortunately, you've earned that. When you begin to respect yourself more and stop taking whatever he throws at you just because you're afraid to be alone, maybe he'll begin to respect you too. Personally, he sounds like a jackass and I would have kicked his worthless ass to the curb years ago.
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