How did you/would you react if/when you ran/run into your ex ?

[Buttercup84]

The only place I can imagine running into my ex is the suburb where I work.While we were together his friend mentioned a nice place to eat at which happens to be close to my work.

 

Also his friend likes the cinema where my sister works at , which is in the mall where I sometimes go to after work . My sister gave my ex some vouchers for the goldclass cinema there for his birthday , so I am worried he might use them ( with a girl , with my luck ) and in some sick twist I will run into them or see them.Or just him.

 

 

We do not have mutal friends and I am avoiding places we used to go to together.

 

But this fear is still within me. Part of me thinks I will break down and cry if I see him , ignore him and shoot him a dirty look , or feel like kicking him in the nuts .

 

 

But I know the best thing would just be to remain classy. He hurt me , treated me like crap at the end and might have cheated on me. But I would regret losing my mind in front of him again.As much as it would hurt , I would be polite if he approached me and keep the talk short and simple.Even if he was with a girl I would be nice.

 

But I would also break down as soon as I get home. I just hope if this ever happens I will have class.

[shayla]

I saw my ex last Saturday. For 8 months I have been so afraid of seeing him (especially out with the other woman) it ruined most of my outings. I could not stop worrying about my reaction to seeing them. That sounds a bit like what you are going through right now.

 

I had all those fears for nothing. When I saw him, I felt absolutely nothing. I looked at him like I saw someone that I didn't know. Totally blank. He was standing right by the entrance looking at me, waiting for me to walk past him. I walked into the other entrance and kept it moving.

 

I noticed that he was driving a cab, I guess that marrying a retirement plan doesn't pay what it used to. And while I wasn't happy that he was doing a job that I know he felt was beneath him, I did see the irony.

 

I think that once enough time passes, you will be suprised at how little seeing him will affect you.

 

Good luck.

[radiodarcy]

i'm with you Buttercup - -while i'd be tempted to go off on him, i would probably just act indifferent. the risk in my seeing him are extremely low. even though i know he has several friends who live in my area - - he's crafty (or is it cowardly) enough that he would be sure to meet with them in places where i don't frequent.

 

if i ever do run into him i would probably just nod or wave and keep walking, like Shayla did.

[The_Good_Me]

I'm fortunate enough to live in a different city to my ex but I do have to go back next year. My sister is getting married and the shop us lads are getting our suits from is near where she works.

 

There is only a slim chance I'd see her but I have thought about it. If we were to spot each other at a distance I plan to just smile politely, give a courtesy nod to acknowledge I've seen her and then just keep walking.

 

If I found myself having no choice but to speak to her, after the hello's are out the way I plan to tell her something along the lines of "you're looking well, sorry I can't stay and chat, I've only got time to do what I came to do, take care of yourself". Just gotta fire that all off quickly before any questions can come forward to prolong it.

 

I'm not planning on bumping into her or anything and I'm going to take a route that avoids her work so hopefully I won't see her and chances are high that we won't meet.

 

I have family in the same city but I don't visit often. Creating this physical distance between us has helped me get to the stage I am at now. When I realised she wasn't going to come back, the only thing I could do was get out of there. So glad I did it.

[0hpenelope]

I'll have all these feelings (the complicated stuff), but I won't feel bothered enough by him to show them outwardly.

[flitzanu]

last i saw my ex gf she yelled in my face and her new little boy was apparently running his mouth about kicking my ass. it was cute.

 

and no, i didn't INITIATE IT...i just politely asked why exactly she came to "my" event.

 

of course, just means she knows what she was doing. she was there to get a rise. hence the yelling and unresolved conflict of hers. i guess her boy thought that's stable for a girl to yell at an ex at a public event in front of other people. lucky fella.

[collegeguy_24]

I live in the small town of Bozeman MT. We've run into each other the first month or so after the breakup last year, and we both tried to hide from one another.

 

Now though, if we ran into each other, I would smile, say hello, maybe try to strike up a small conversation, then be on my way.

 

I've moved on enough I can do that, I don't mind being cordial. There is no need for me to be bitter and angry any longer.

[Mcnulty]

She was and still is after 2 years the love of my life...always will be, but we don't acknowledge each other anymore...me, because it would really damage me to have her touch my life again in any way, shape or form...it's a heartbreaking self preservation plan, but it's what i'll have to do for the rest of my life and I accept that now.

 

That's the first time i've said it out in the open, haven't said it to anyone...feel ashamed that she'll always be in my heart as she was a selfish woman.

[SugarLily]

She was and still is after 2 years the love of my life...always will be, but we don't acknowledge each other anymore...me, because it would really damage me to have her touch my life again in any way, shape or form...it's a heartbreaking self preservation plan, but it's what i'll have to do for the rest of my life and I accept that now.

 

That's the first time i've said it out in the open, haven't said it to anyone...feel ashamed that she'll always be in my heart as she was a selfish woman.

 

 

It's nothing to be ashamed of - so sweet that you have been so honest.

 

I once felt that way too. I fell in love and thought this guy was 'the one' for me - the 'love of my life' - and that he 'always would be'.

 

I felt that way for a while - until I actually fell in love with a guy i'd known for years, but never spoken to.

 

What i'm trying to say is that you may feel this way now - but I promise that you will feel differently in the future.

 

If it is true love - then it is meant to be. And if it is meant to be - then it will be. If not, it was never true love.

[ConfusedT]

would entirely depend for me on if he was with his girlfriend or not.

 

without- i know this is sad to say, but we have this sexual chemistry that could IGNITE A FOREST, so it'd be hard, but for what he's done to me, I think I'd just look at him and feel bad.

 

with his girlfriend- since i have a restraining order on her, one of us would have to leave where we are, BUT she is only 20, so I know she would run her mouth like crazy and I would probably want to say something, but all i would say is:

 

& that's who you left me for?? and walk away... in disgust, bc i am still disgusted!!!!

[geegirl]

Just after we broke up (ex lives down the street), I was ill and went to the local pharmacy. He was at the checkout counter looking like he stepped out of a GQ magazine. I looked like death was about to pay me a visit. He smiled and I awkwardly smiled and walked quickly to the back of the store. I felt like my knees were about to buckle and cried in the store infront of everyone. A few months later, I saw him, and I felt nothing. A little surprised but didn't feel anything as my feelings were diminishing. It all depends on where you are in your healing stage to determine how you will react. But always, always, with class and polite indifference, whether he's with someone or not.

[dontstopbelieving]

Three days after my ex broke up with me, I was on the bus and when it stopped I looked out and realized he was about to get on the same one. I started feeling really nervous and uncomfortable, my knees literally started to shake. All I can do was duck (since I was standing up, it was really packed) and hid behind people. I turned my back towards the door and keep my head down until the bus was running. After I built up the courage I turned around to realize he didn't get on because the bus was too packed. (thank GOD, Seriously!) I'm so glad he didn't get on because it was the same week of the break up and my emotions were still raw, I couldn't have now how to act or what to say. I've been NC since the day of the break up and still am. It's already been a month and I'm feeling much stronger. Weird thing about it is, we work near each other but due to our schedules we never ran into each other when we were dating. I've actually relocated to a different office for a few weeks just so I won't run into him. Hopefully if I ever run into him again in the future, I'll be a lot stronger and confident to have a civil conversation or give him a nice big smile to show him, I'm just fine without him.

[Treasa]

If I saw my ex I would nod very briefly if we made eye contact, and then go about my way. That's it, end of story.

[Surfer Girl]

It had been 6 months NC. He had called me twice the month before which was right before his B-Day... I called him the day before left msg hope he had a great day for his birthday and a good year. He text me Thank you.. Hope you are well.... I did not contact him again... Mind you I dumped him because I could feel the distance... I did contact him by e-mail one more time about 2 weeks ago when I missed him terrible as a surf partner out in the waves at our home break... Said I missed you today... hope you found waves and enjoyed yourself..No reply...

 

Over Labor Day weekend I was at a Beach Charity event where we both know the founder of the event... My hair when he knew me was long... I had it cut short.. I was standing looking at some results of the surf contest and heard the founder talking... I turned around and low and behold I was face to face with by ex with another girl... I just said his name in surprise and he said mine with a hint of uncomfort... I turned to the founder hugged him and they were gone...

 

I felt so much for him that the next day I called him left msg asked him to meet up as I needed to talk to him.... I knew I had made a mistake still loved him and would do anything to have him back in my life... No reply... I finally e-mailed... put the words out there.... He e-mailed me back it was very difficult to see me... It hurt him and made him feel uncomfortable... He needed space and perhaps in time things would be different. I e-mailed him back thanking him and told him I found the closure I needed

 

I am back to NC.... Now the pain is deeper than ever and I am back to square one. My deepest regret is not answering his phone a month back when he called.... Believe me as a dumper it is not what I wanted to do but felt no choice... He even agreed with me... and it was not easy going NC that long...

[CopingGal]

Two days before I ran into my ex, we had a terrible argument about the aftermath of the break up. I told him to go to Hell. I ran into him 2 days later with his new gf who looks like his mom or even his grandmother. I touched his arm and said hi. I ran into them again later and said hi to her. I talked with her for a few minutes. She was slightly rough and rude with me. I was glad we could be civil. I laughed my ass off when I thought about this new match made in Hell. Then the next day, I cried and cried.

[danceallday]

I have seen my ex several times since I started nc. He treated me like such crap and one of the times I just looked straight at him. I held my head up high because I did nothing wrong and tried to be a good person throughout the relationship.

 

It was hard. Very hard. I will probably run into him again. It will suck, but I have to live my life.

[PositiveNegative]

I go to the same school as my ex. Actually I go to the same school as BOTH of my ex's :/ Every time I ran into my first ex we were entirely civil as we broke up on good terms and we both got into relationships within a month of our break up. I don't see her much anymore.

 

Now as for my recent ex.... I just ran into her today and well... it sucked. Ironically, two years ago, this girl used to walk a different path to class just to say hi to me everyday. I never learned that until we started dating. These days I will have to walk a different path in order to not see her.

 

Funny how life works.

[ChelleBelle]

My x texts and asks to see me everyday. My heart is breaking. I can"t bear to see him. If I see him I know I will breakdown and cry. I would probably end up crying all over his white t shirt and my make up marking everything. I miss the smell of him and the way he held me. There is no one else involved in our split. At some point, it will happen. Although we are not in the same circle, there is more than a 50% chance of it happening. Knowing my luck, I will probably look likes S...t and he will look gorgeous in his white T shirt and 501's. I will definately cry

[mtd4249]

Buttercup ... I actually lived through a rather extraordinary experience of running into my ex about 2 months ago. I still can't believe how it happened given that I live in Tasmania and she lives in Brisbane ... if you're interested, I posted a thread about it ... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t285566/?highlight=mtd4249

 

I'm still hoping the odds of running into my ex in the way I did will one day turn into the odds for me to win the lottery!

[LilThalie]

I saw him about a week after our break-up when waiting at a bus stop late at night but no interaction.

 

Then a week later I ran into him and it was disgusting. It was in the evening, I was standing there with a friend and I cried because my grandma had died. Suddenly she looks up and her eyes widen. I turn around, it's him. I stare at him, he stares at me and just walks on by with his ex.

 

Another week later I saw him at the cafeteria, I look at him, he looks at me. I smile and he looks down at his feet, then back at me and walks away.

 

I have not seen him since and probably won't!