1Dunno Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Well trying NC, then trying to be "friends" (if you could even call it that), back and forth for the past four months has really worn me down both emotionally and physically. You see, the problem is that I work at the same place, and live next door to my ex. Also, having the same social circle of friends in such a small town makes NC pretty much impossible, so I've had to grin and bear my hurt in front of her. For what was such a short "relationship" (if you can even call it that), I should have been over it months ago. But not having many other single girls to meet in such a small town (isolated from everywhere) makes it hard. But I now have some great news. I'm moving house. Another step away from her! The part that I'm most looking forward to is not telling her about it and letting her find out herself. Granted that she probably won't give a s**t when she does find out, but hopefully it sends her the message that she isn't as high priority to me as she thinks she still is.
smudge21 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Don't beat yourself up over the fact it was short and you should've healed by now. That's BS. There is no fixed times to heal and also, when something has been quick, it can add to your feelings because you feel like you've been cheated out of something longer. I know I feel that way as we were getting on so well even afterwards. Plus, you don't fall in love with someone when you're with them; it's when you're apart and missing them. I wouldn't mention the move, just do it. You already clearly have enough contact and you don't need anymore. If anything, should she talk to you a week before hand (for example) just politely say something like "yeah, I'll come see you next week" - and then you're gone! Okay, a bit cruel and childish, and I wouldn't do it, but nice to picture it in your mind maybe. Stay strong and good luck where you next land - it's a big sea, with plenty of fresh fish!
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