ScienceGal Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I do it for relaxation and as a stress reliever. For that, it's great. That being said, it's obvious I'm not new to it, because I was doing an exercise that the professor hadn't taught me the first day of class (and doing it well.) But my intention in signing up for yoga was NOT to meet girls...although it helps that there are a lot of cute girls in the class. I disagree with anyone advising you to lie and act like you're new to it. There is no need to lie about anything. You like yoga, you're there because of that, with cute women that like yoga. I don't know how many available women are there, but I think you'll do just fine at least getting conversations
Imajerk17 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I do it for relaxation and as a stress reliever. For that, it's great. That being said, it's obvious I'm not new to it, because I was doing an exercise that the professor hadn't taught me the first day of class (and doing it well.) But my intention in signing up for yoga was NOT to meet girls...although it helps that there are a lot of cute girls in the class. Good! As long as you have a reason for being in class. For the record, I never suggested that you lie about being new to yoga. For some strange reason though, I just assumed you were.
make me believe Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Most married or engaged women are not going to take their rings off for something like yoga. I never take mine off when I attend classes and always see several women wearing theirs as well. So don't worry about that. Plus, if she is married or in a relationship, she'll quickly find a way to bring her husband/boyfriend up in the conversation. The key here, I think, is to not come across like you are taking the class as a way to meet women. I agree with the advice to get there early, stay late, and chat casually with EVERYONE not just the pretty girls. If there are older women there, chat with them too. Chat with the male instructor. Don't let yourself be seen as the creepy guy taking yoga as an excuse to ogle girls. And since you're in the class with all of these people, you have a built in conversation starter. Ask how long they've been doing yoga, comment on how much you've been enjoying the class, compare it to other classes you've taken or other types of yoga, etc. But you definitely need to talk to everyone, because a lot of the girls will probably be suspicious about your motives for taking yoga if you just randomly start hitting on them at the end of class. It'll come across as ingenuine and creepy. Just be friendly and casual with everyone.
Wolf18 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I hate to say it, but yoga is not a very manly pursuit. That is why you are the only man in the class. If you're taking a class to meet women, I would have recommended a class that is more co-ed, or even a co-ed sports team. But you never know. It could work out. You glance at a woman's ring finger to determine if she is married. Anyone without a ring on her ring finger should be fair game to approach. Try to establish a position on the floor that is next to the person you are interested in. Then talk about the activity to the person next to you when it's acceptable to talk. You could play dumb a little bit and ask the person how one of the moves is supposed to be done. You could make comments about the exercises. You could make comments on how great it feels, or how it is benefiting you. Get used to talking to the person next to you in class. Then at the end of the class, walk out with the person and ask them, for example, "Can I interest you in lunch?" or whatever, depending on what time of day it is. The worst she could say is no thank you. Or if she has a boyfriend, she might then mention him. But that's the chance you take. If you don't take the chance, you won't get anywhere with this. No harm in asking. Actually, Yoga was invented only for the use of warriors and celibate males, so saying it isn't manly is absurd. If anything, it isn't for women, who have made a complete mockery of it in the modern world. Most Yoga I see is done with the goal of women being more limber for strange sex positions.
KathyM Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Also, judging, that I get up the nerve to even say hi to these women. Did you read the part where I said I'm a shy boy? Yes, I read that. I know it's hard for shy people to start up conversations. I'm also a shy person in RL. I know it's difficult, but you have to force yourself. That's the only way you're going to get to know people, or have a chance at dating. It's so much easier for a shy girl to get into a relationship, because they don't have to be the first one to make a move, but you, dear boy, have to force yourself to make that move. Even if it feels unnatural. You have to overcome your fear of rejection and risk being turned down. Just ask her questions about yoga and her experiences with yoga, and make comments on it yourself.
wezol Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I still need some help here. Rings on their fingers...who would wear rings to yoga? Probably, even if they were married, they'd take the rings off beforehand. I just need some openers to break down the ice. I am a shy boy, I don't make connections easily. That's fine then, look at the ring finger anyway, see if you see any kind of indention or tan line.
KathyM Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 And what brought you to this enlightened opinion? The millions of men who regularly practice it in Asian countries would really love to know. I'm interested in yoga, but I find it somewhat boring as compared to goal-oriented sports so I don't do it as much as I'd like. I should have said it's not something men in the U.S. normally pursue. I think taking classes or taking up co-ed sports where there is more interaction opportunities would be more ideal. Yoga is practiced in silence, and there are limited opportunities to interact with people, but there are some, before and after class. Possibly there are breaks during the class where people could talk as well. Just not as many as with activities where you are allowed to talk most of the time.
KathyM Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I would say that the women in the class fall between a spectrum of Iris (thrilled if a guy took yoga and approached her) and KathyM (suspicious of guys in her class as either being effeminate or "just there to hit on girls"). Talk about yoga, and "why you are there". Hopefully it is to "add some flexibility to the weightlifting" you are doing or it is "to recover from an injury" (you know, something masculine), instead of "to hit on girls". That's pretty good advice, Jerk, put a masculine spin on it. And I admit, I would be a little leary of a guy in a yoga class with all women in it. I'd think he's there to hit on girls. Or he's gay. Your suggestions were good. Also, it would be a good idea to start a weight-lifting program. Then he could combine that with yoga to add flexibility. He wouldn't just be feeding her a line, it would be the truth.
grkBoy Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I'd agree with KathyM on page 1. First make sure you're not joining just to meet women, or else women will see right through you. Just do the class, work at the positions, and then if after class someone looks at you and smiles, say hi. Small talk, then perhaps see if they would like to go for coffee. I know I took pilates with my fiance. Mainly women as well because the men-folk think it's wussy...but I'll tell you that you get a workout. Just make sure if you're taking yoga for the sake of taking yoga, be able to talk about it and show you're not just there as a ploy to meet women.
Author AHardDaysNight Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 One of my best friends does yoga at home every day, and he is one of the most masculine guys I know. Dates a bunch of beautiful women, too, and has his own tree cutting business. Oh, and he's an American. Go figure, huh? Maybe I shouldn't take yoga classes...should just do it at home. What's the point of actually learning?
Casablanca Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Nothing wrong with doing Yoga, I've done some at home...I could probably NEVER take a class though, not because I'm embarrassed, I'm too nervous I'd get an erection, Yoga already turns me on, then add in all the attractive women in yoga pants doing it.... Props to you...
Author AHardDaysNight Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 Yeah, the tight yoga pants has always tended to be a problem. But people who are in touch with their spiritual side do yoga. If that means a lot of gay guys are in touch with their spiritual side...well, good for them. I will be a straight guy in touch with my spiritual side.
OnyxSnowfall Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Yeah, the tight yoga pants has always tended to be a problem. But people who are in touch with their spiritual side do yoga. If that means a lot of gay guys are in touch with their spiritual side...well, good for them. I will be a straight guy in touch with my spiritual side. A strong sense of spirituality is wonderful... whether in a man or in a women... and yoga has many health benefits... also wonderful. I just wanted to chime in and state that I think it's a good place to explore for romantic prospects... shouldn't be detrimental to you. Doesn't matter if some females may be put off by it, many more will find it attractive.
one goal Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Two summers ago I took a pilates class at college for one of my gym credits. Only TWO guys in the whol class, rest women but not many hot ones. But two of them were SUPER HOT! One who I sat next to and one day after class walking to our cars I asked her if we could hangout sometime and that. Anyways I actually got her number and that. But she had a boyfriend she admitted to me and didnt think it was right.
Imageiko Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 The key here, I think, is to not come across like you are taking the class as a way to meet women. I agree with the advice to get there early, stay late, and chat casually with EVERYONE not just the pretty girls. If there are older women there, chat with them too. Chat with the male instructor. Don't let yourself be seen as the creepy guy taking yoga as an excuse to ogle girls. And since you're in the class with all of these people, you have a built in conversation starter. I want to reiterate this as I think it's important. In fact I'd specifically talk to people you aren't interested in dating first. That way she won't have the immediate defensive thoughts if you strike up a conversation with her.
olddouche Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Dude..... You gotta own that ****. Make friends with one of the girls... doesn't matter which one. She is gonna be your wing-woman so it might be better if shes married or something. Once you have a friend in the class you can start chatting around all the other girls. This way they get to hear your voice without you creeping on them. All the sudden you're the super approachable cool guy in the class. This opens you up to more friends in the class and the next thing you know you're popular because you're the only cool guy. From this point be picky... you can go for whatever you want so shoot high. Also practice patience. Remember that there will be new girls entering the class and they could be better than whats in there already.
Chicago_Guy Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 I also started taking a yoga class at my gym. I used to think that yoga was only for girls and gay guys but now I know better. Yoga is actually a very good workout and some of the more difficult yoga classes require quite a bit of strength. If the OP is in a class where he is the only guy, I can just about guarantee that at least some of the women are single and might even be looking for a boyfriend or at least someone to date. If someone in that class is very interested in him, she will probably do something to make her interest known to him. The OP should try to make sure that he always looks his best when he heads over to the yoga class. For example, he should make sure that he is wearing decent workout clothes that fit. If he has some muscles mass, he should wear clothes that show this off.
Author AHardDaysNight Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Chicago, I am fat and my legs and arms are skinny while my body is fat. I probably would not be the ideal of most girls in that class, especially when they see me stretching. That being said, I am not taking the class to get a girl. I am taking it for relaxation and to get exercise. Anything on top of that is gravy. I was just potentially opening the door for how I potentially would approach a girl in this setting (obviously a fit guy would approach, and be more successful, than me, a fat guy who has a weird looking body.)
Chicago_Guy Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Chicago, I am fat and my legs and arms are skinny while my body is fat. I probably would not be the ideal of most girls in that class, especially when they see me stretching. That being said, I am not taking the class to get a girl. I am taking it for relaxation and to get exercise. Anything on top of that is gravy. I was just potentially opening the door for how I potentially would approach a girl in this setting (obviously a fit guy would approach, and be more successful, than me, a fat guy who has a weird looking body.) If you are fat, it is going to be hard to meet women at a yoga class. How fat are you? I suggest you start lifting weights or doing some serious cardio on the days you are not taking yoga. If you can afford it and cannot motivate yourself to lift weights or don't know what you are doing, consider paying a trainer to show you how to work out. Losing weight will give you more confidence than you can imagine right now.
Author AHardDaysNight Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Once again, getting back to my weight. Bleh. Yeah, I should just declare myself voluntarily celibate. Who needs a woman?
Author AHardDaysNight Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Well, I am not that fat. I was much fatter before. I am hoping to shed some of these pounds, and I welcome any form of exercise as encouragement. But I just get frustrated. I was skinny. as. a. rail. and had women all over me. And still....I never even kissed a girl. Because of anxiety. Because of shyness. Because of low self esteem. My problem isn't my weight. It's that I don't got game!
betterdeal Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Lose weight and loosing up. If you want to make friends, be friendly. You may well not end up dating someone at class, but you might end up dating a friend of hers, or a friend of a friend of hers. Networking gives you more exposure to more people and it feels good to know and be known by more people. You don't have to be smarmy or super-confident - just human and friendly and your social aspect will grow. There's lots of gorgeous women in the yoga classes I go to, but most are a bit young for me and I'm a bit old for them, plus it feels like a sanctuary to me, so making a concerted effort to hit on them isn't my thing. That said, I get on well with several of them and the few other men who are there too. But yes, lose weight, and be friendly. You know it has an effect.
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